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Quitting this fetish Anonymous 04/05/2024 (Fri) 15:36:18 Id:fe4251 No. 47293
Finally quit this fetish. All 200GB deleted. I’ve had this feederism kink/fetish since I was a kid. Always been in the back of my mind, it’s basically a sexuality for me. I realised that watching this sort of content started to corrupt my brain. We are all watching and promoting mental illness through this fetish. Continue to watch the video after you’ve nutted, study the models you watch. Do they seem happy? I have decided to separate this weird fetish out of my life in the hopes I can recover and become a better person. Although part of me has resentment, I thank this website for opening my eyes on this fetish and helping me understand myself. Good luck everybody
40 years of life, you're not "quitting" this anytime soon. You can quit hoarding porn, you can quit being a weirdo stalker, you can quit being insecure, but you will never cut this part of your brain out unless you literally get a lobotomy or become a eunuchs. The most important part of my experience has been the ability to "balance" this part of me with my "normal" life. The being 400+ pounds, the gaining, the fetishism, that's not easy to live out for everyone who gets off on it because it really is straddling fantasy vs what is actually something people want to do along with everything else in their lives (get married, have kids, have a job, travel, etc). People want to be huge but also want kids so what do they do, they can try to do both, or figure out how to live with that desire in balance. For me, "balance" has come through just talking about this thing soberly with a few key people in my life over the years, be they one-time encounters, or life partners, or a platonic like-minded friend, talking SOBERLY about myself and my experience with those people who were open and willing to hear me out has been absolutely freeing. Freeing me from the shame and the guilt and the disgust I had for myself for something I literally couldn't control. That's just my experience, I do still wish there was more access and more places online where we could be more sober and open but those spaces are either vacant or non-existent. Not to say a Bash or something wouldn't be the place, I've never been, but the hook-up factor is something that would need to be overcome since we're all also deprived of an actual sexual encounter where this is celebrated vs hidden. Anyway, everyone's different. Remove the shame, make a friend.
>>47439 This isnt even a master degree college thesis there was an attempt.
>>47439 I will have the courts type up a nice master degree thesis. 10 plus pages. How does that read.. I know youre here you calm predictable fool.
I feel like one of the main problems with all of this is what we (as a society, or humans whatever frame you want to set) have set as normal, good and average and what is not If this preference was considered normal or a part of the average, would you want to get rid of it so badly? There's many different preferences in this world Some are considered as ok, some are weird or far off the set norm Keep in mind this is just one of dozens That's how humans work That's how it has to be, it's supposed to be like that so that we don't all chase the same thing It's basically like a plan (evolutionary or religious whichever you prefer personally) and you're one of those guys that was chosen to like sth different in a very simplified way Basically anyone is Some more some less You maybe didn't beg for it to be like that, but it is basically your coding And you can't really change your bios, you know Especially when you already experienced it at early age It could've been literally anything Sth "harmless" like a strong preference for a certain eye or hair color But for you and all of us it's fat women And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that Yes it of course may (not has to) lead to things such as health complications, but not necessarily And you don't have to apply anything to the real world (feeding for example) But on the other hand some people have a thing for unhealthy skinny girls or smokers I wasn't in a relationship until very late teens because I was too afraid to be open about it and let other people see it.. But nowadays I'm happily married to a 400 pound woman and it's the neat thing ever Because that's me and I don't try to be somebody I ain't Just accept it and make the best out of it And remember, it could've been sth way worse than soft jiggly bellies, tits and ass ^^ It's just not considered as normal and a lot of people hide it But I feel like there's a lot more people out there not being who they really are This is not a mental disability like identifying as a fox, this is just a natural preference you were given randomly and you should enjoy it You won't ever feel the same with a skinny girl no matter how hard you try ;) And you could make an insecure chubby girl very happy too
>>47439 In my similar experience what I need to get across is that it’s not just enough to have beliefs; nor just enough to have been experienced. What’s truly important is that you recognize how ephemeral and transient all of your being truely really is. Theseus’s ship and all that argonaut jazz. In a week all your sperm will be new; in months your blood itself won’t be your blood anymore. This is the nature of life, the river flows into the sea yet the sea is never full. The harder you try to avoid fat women the more it will haunt and control you. As your attempt to cling to normie women and normie relations be careful you don’t leave claw marks. Relax. Unless you’re swimming in pussy liking fat women is one of the most enviable abilities on earth.
>>47439 I fail to see how having sober discussions about being sexually aroused by womens belly fat or overeating and gaining weight is helpful in any way. I know we aren't sick malevolent creatures for having these fetishes, speaking about it with family and friends who aren't always very open minded let alone equipped to discuss topics like sexual fetishes doesn't seem like it would provide any value. In my experience these kinks are EXTREMELY unsettling and confusing to most people. Even people I know who have rape fetishes couldn't wrap their mind around the idea of feedism. Tread very lightly because people's reactions can reinforce the idea that we're fucked up or we enjoy seeing people destroy their bodies or something warped (I know some people in the community do) I'm even reluctant to bring it up with any future partner going by people's past reactions. Even telling a lady you think her belly is sexy is risky if she's chubby, women want to feel adored but they don't want to feel fetishised. I think the best thing we can do is to cut out porn and try to find a way to indulge this to the lowest degree possible. But I know it's tough because porn is really the only way most of us can ever indulge this fetish so it's really appealing for that reason.
>>47459 I think he means talking about the preference with other people, not the fetishistic aspects of it. Like, a man will come out to his parents or friends as gay but not go into whether he's a top or a bottom, into leather dudes, etc. Several people close to me know I'm an FA but no one (I think) knows I'm into feedism or fat humiliation. At worst they were amused by it, I never had a negative reaction. I've only shared that stuff with partners after a long period of building up trust and sussing out if they'd be receptive, or at least not horrified. (FWIW this happened twice, with mixed results.) I believe the OP's problem isn't his preference for fat women or fat-related fetishes, which are hard-wired anyway and so not worth fretting over. It's that he was a sex addict, who saw himself as addicted to porn and masturbation. This is like any addiction, where dopamine receptors have to be retrained away from the act of finding porn and jerking off to it. Like getting building positive relationships and finding pleasure in healthier activities and hobbies. I also don't believe we're in any way special where we have to indulge our fetish with porn. Porn doesn't occupy 1/3 of the internet just because of FAs or other fetishists. It's that (mostly) men like to get off while not having to take into account a partner's needs or feelings. Porn addiction has always existed but it has gone into hyperdrive since the advent of the internet because of the convenience and privacy of it. I know I watch a hell of a lot more since it was available on my phone.
>>47468 Yeah but even then you're only giving them half the story if your real fetish or preferences are a lot less socially acceptable. I will tell people I'm into curvy women because anything beyond that is where they start to pick it apart ,and that's one of the few words that most women don't mind being described with. There is a healthy way to balance this fetish but due to it's nature I've found it hard to confine. I don't think our porn addiction is stronger in the FA community necessarily but that it's the only outlet for a lot of people who don't want to or haven't been able to ever indulge in it offline. I mean the chances of me finding a lady with a chubby belly who is happy to stuff herself and gain some weight is effectively zero, and I would feel bad for encouraging her to be unhealthy as well. So I think a lot of people into this stuff are addicted to porn for different reasons than most normie porn watchers, although it's still a dopamine addiction at the end of the day. Having said all this I'm going to have another shot at abstaining from porn for a while - it's hard since social media and dating app photos can be arousing too but here goes
>>47293 Have you ever fucked a fat chick tho? It's fuckin awesome why would you want to quit?
>>47480 This is what I wanna know. It fucking rules AND you have less competition with other men because they're all thirsting over skinny girls. We've got the jackpot.
>>47473 You're right, in that besides all the other editing I do I'm very reluctant to tell people I'm into women 350 lbs and over, even though I've dated women that size. Could be a cultural difference between Australia and the US, but I still think it's more socially acceptable than homosexuality, being attracted to trans people, or certain races (not your own). A lot of FAs build it up in their heads as something bigger than it is, while most people really don't give a fuck about the size of the woman you're with. And if we have to take some shit here and there so be it. I survived high school lol. You don't hear about guys being beaten up or denied housing or employment for being with a fat woman. Good luck with your abstention.
>>47481 > It fucking rules AND you have less competition with other men because they're all thirsting over skinny girls Maybe ugly fat girls are easier than ugly skinny women. But hot fat chicks are in demand: Cheap dates, nicer girls, bigger ass and tits, suck dick like their hungry… I’ve dated a ton, I’m 6’3” and 200 pounds of muscles. I can tell you, fuckable fat women are getting dick more than attractive skinny women. It’s not all guys who will date them, but that doesn’t change the competitive landscape. Every fat women I dated or fucked only wanted chads and was a complete size queen (like 7” is “average”).
>>47301 the only good reply in this stupid thread
>>47293 You've not said whether you are in a relationship or not, and if she's a bbw or greater. IMHO it makes a difference. If you've a thing for ssbbws, that narrows your dating pool significantly. I was late settling down into marriage and had 20 years of dating, relationships, flings, casual encounters etc 90% of whom were UK size 22, most considerably bigger. I didn't always like superfat women, but the bigger they were the more I was into it. It was like a fucking drug, I just couldn't get enough fat. Watching 600lb women like Heather and seeing big cuties get insanely big distorts your real life appreciation of your preference for fat, in the same way that teenage boys think all women should be absolute sluts and crave anal and facials constantly. Too much porn distorts real life relationships. Everything in moderation is a helluva good statement because it's true. A few drinks regularly is fine, downing half a litre of vodka daily just to function isn't. It's not the fat fetish that's a problem, it's porn addiction. I don't think the OP has a fat fetish, he has a preference for fat women and an unhealthy fascination with porn. If you're not in a relationship it distorts your view on having a healthy relationship with a fat girl. Real relationships with fat girls isn't feeding them cake and grabbing their fat on camera. I fucking love my wife, she's just under 300lb now, down nearly 100lb from 10 years ago, but we stopped fucking after COVID jabs and I got into a bad place with fat porn. It's like having an affair, porn is giving you the unobtainable. The wife is 290lb and I was coming to 600lb. That's virtually un-obtainable in the UK, and I wasn't never going to leave my wife to go chase it. But that dopamine hit was like the crackheads drug, so I made the effort to keep away from it a whole lot more. No doubt he'll put his feet in the water again, but keeping the actual fat fetish porn in check is fucking worthwhile to balance out real life experiences. When you're having sex with someone you fucking love, you're not just getting the dopamine hit, youre both sharing serotonin and oxytocin which bonds you, and that throws a male orgasm through the roof and gives you a dopamine hit that far exceeds busting your nut to porn. That's what you need to keep in check. Porn is having an affair and keeping it a secret from the wife. Your virtually cheating on your partner if you're letting it affect the actual real life relationship. Before we got back to actual healthy regular sex I used the porn to get me off in my head, that ain't sustainable. It's also fucking selfish, your partner isn't grabbing your attention, it's the virtual porn in your head. Fucking long way of saying well done to the guy for abstaining, if he's in a relationship it will work wonders putting porn away for a long while. If he's not, he should be able to focus on finding a great relationship, and hopefully be proud to date a plus sized girl, cos as we all know on here, fat girls are the best. I'll give it a few hours tops before I get the obligatory 'youre a faggot' schizo remarks. Fire all your shitty comments you like, I have a great life and treaty fat wife like a fucking queen.
>>47493 *typos from using a mobile. Gives the trolls something else for ammo I guess. 😀😀
>>47494 Bruh I gave them so many pilot licenses more then once & still found a reason to be racist. Lmao
While in the spirit of OP, but not quite the same, I've come to the decision to finally quit porn and to remove my own stashes too. I've liked fat girls since I first developed feelings for girls as a kid, and it really hasn't changed beyond me coming to terms with it as I matured. Fat chicks are definitely going to be a life long preference, sexuality, or fetish for me. Whatever term it is, it doesn't really matter to be honest. I'm just going to quit porn, and, in the future, make the opportunity for myself to get with a cute fat girl and have a fulfilling relationship with her. I don't post here too often, but I figured some form of goodbye to this place was somewhat warranted given the years I was here for. More for me than for you guys for certain. As some advice to help with getting off the goods for OP and anyone else, I heavily suggest reading the EasyPeasy Method. It's free and it's online. It's a quick read. It's cheesy at times, and certainly not something most people would care to read, but it helped me, and maybe it will help someone else here too. I won't be seeing this place again so best of luck out there y'all.
>>47579 Imagine you’re a junkie ready to go into rehab to kick heroin and you go around to all your dealers for one last goodbye lol.
>>47582 Spotted.
"Dealers" lol thats cute. The surface was only scratched.
>>47584 I wish this guy the best, like the OP, but making a statement about it — especially here — is all about congratulating themselves for the righteous choice they've made. Not to mention it's kinda hollow given the track record of addicts in general, particularly those who are overly performative about their first few seconds of abstinence. Quitting means quitting. If they're still here, they haven't quit.
>>47584 What are you quoting?
There is nothing wrong with jeking off. I had stopped for more than a year and cameback. No remorse. If it takes that much time that you hace to stop it, then yes, reduce it. But, don't stop. There is no reason to completely stop. Plus, it will lower your testosterone levels. There's just a lot of pressure to do so because of society looking down at jerking off, but it's actually is worse to no do it. Like I said, I had stopped for more than a year (deleted everything as well) in the past. Then, I took psychology classes and I learned about the negative side effects if not doing it. (reduced testosterone + its negative side effects like less sociable) Not worth it. Keep on pirating and jerking off!!
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>>47439 this is the way. Shame rarely does anything for you, it just prevents you from being honest with yourself about who you are and what you are. And if you can't be honest with yourself about those things, you can't be honest with other people about them, and you'll only continue to struggle connecting with other people.
You have latent fatphobia you need to work through bc feedism and fatness are morally neutral believe or not >Continue to watch the video after you’ve nutted, study the models you watch. Do they seem happy? Uhhhhhhhhh most of them yes lmao do you really think everyone with this fetish hates themselves? At the end of the day you’re gonna die. Each day you come closer to the end and there is nothing that can be done. You’ll never get another chance at life. Are you not going to live a pleasurable life because of what society says is acceptable? The faster you accept who you are the faster you can get to living your own life regardless of the external messages we all get for being into this.
>>51438 Get the fuck out of here, kid.
>>51438 I feel bad for you man
The only reason I hate having this fetish is cuz there are no fatties where i live. I could count the SSBBW types ive matched with on dating apps on one fucking hand. Then i have to tolerate hanging out with retards that i dont even like just to fuck…
>>51485 Assuming you're actually a Dane and not a VPN flag - I really do feel sorry for FA's in Europe. I can't imagine how rare a fatty is there.
>>51485 > Then i have to tolerate hanging out with retards that i dont even like just to fuck… Men who date skinny women say the same thing. Hoes are generally easy to smash and not worth socializing with.
>>51507 That's not danish flag lol. Fat chicks are everywhere around here too unless we're talking about like 500 pounds, and yeah if that's the only thing you can get hard to yeah then we might have a problem but those don't grow on trees anywhere in the world. I've had sex with a 3-4 SSBBW's ages ranging from 18 to 32, but of course it's because I'm a social person so I guess I'm one of these aforementioned retards. Not saying this to gloat but you'll definitely find someone good if you put in the effort. It's starting to be a few years ago, but I was in a larger city in Alabama, US as a teenager and obviously there were more fat people there than here but the thing is that the majority of SSBBWs there looked repulsive, while if you see one here she's probably still gonna be a 5/10 at least.
>>47326 Browsing DeviantArt can be a great therapy method to hold your fapping urges, just look at the amout of lolcows copy and pasting their waifus onto poorly traced doodles and makes you recapacite that these people are probably your age or older and they still think they're the new Da Vinci due to constant ego stroking in their echochambers.
It’s starting to lose its hold on me
>>54043 I just accept that feedism, fat admiration and weight gain are all natural desires that are not inherently bad. I have found no one really cares as long as your not a creepy insecure weirdo about it. The only reason I'm still in this shithole, is because of porn addiction. That and intense shame for other reasons besides just that. This part of me I have long accepted, it's really not so bad honestly.
>>53960 > That's not danish flag lol. Fuck off you Dutch faggot
>>54802 Same here
>>47293 I think a relevant factor is that the fetish community as a whole has really just tanked. it was so much more authentic back in the day
You can't get rid of this fetish 100%, but if the girls you fetishized didn't exceed +/- 350lbs. You can replace them. I personally replaced it with a girl from the gym (160lbs), but in my relationship with my current girlfriend, we also have a huge emotional bond and more than her physical aspects (even though she is considered pretty) I am turned on by her character and behavior. But socially acceptable, it can also be to have a chubby girl 180-200lbs, something like blondie.18, or CandiKayn (when she weighed that much). It's a bit like alcoholism, you have to reduce the doses, so that in the end you have a chance for an alternative. In the above-mentioned forms. And although sometimes (like now) I feel like watching some weight-gain (because that was my fetish specifically). It's when you have a girl you truly love and who shares even a little bit of this fetish that you're able to control it.
>>54810 People definitely care, my cousin got very fat after marriage and the whole family was shit talking her for being fat so young, and theorising that her husband was a feeder (and their only knowledge of that comes from 600lbs life psycho feeders)
I am 31 years old and I have gone through several stages with this fetish and I would like to share my experience and how I have dealt with it here. First, I would like to point out that this was the path that helped me the most, but in no way do I want to give the idea that I am better than everyone else here. On the contrary, I am flawed and, even walking this path I stumble, but I get up and move on. I just want to share my experience here and, if it somehow inspires someone, I will be happy about that. When I was a child, around 5 or 6 years old, I watched the movie "The Nutty Professor", and one scene in particular stuck in my memory. The scene was when he dreamed that he kept getting fat. That part of the movie had a profound effect on my childhood mind. After that, I watched Spirited Away, where another scene also stuck with me, when a creature started to swallow other characters. Since then, whenever I saw scenes in cartoons, movies, etc. that were similar to those movies, I would get a peculiar interest, something strange that I didn't know how to describe. In 2005, I watched Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. In that movie, a girl named Violet chews a Blueberry gum. Then, she starts to swell, grow and turn blue like the fruit. The actress who played the character was the same age as me at the time and it was at that point that that unusual interest... became physical attraction. Some time later, with the arrival of the Internet in our homes, it took a while to find this type of content on the web. To tell the truth, I wasn't even aware that there would be any content like that on the web, and I wasn't even trying to find it. But one day, while searching for something completely unrelated, an image appeared that reminded me of those drawings. Out of curiosity, I clicked to see the author... It was my biggest regret because, after that click, I entered a totally new and unknown world, where people created content that resonated with what attracted me. The drawings were even silly and innocent at first, but as I delved deeper and deeper, things intensified and became heavier. Until then, I didn't know what it was that I was feeling, I didn't have a name to call it. It was then that during a worship service, I heard the passage: "There are desires that must die, die to the world and live for God, and worship Him." This touched my soul and began to bother me. Since then, for the first time, I began to try to understand what was going on inside me, what this feeling was. It was then that I read about Paraphilias, sexual desires that were distorted. It was then that I discovered about the Fetish for fat women and also Vorarephilia, or simply "Vore". I felt like a freak, a monster, someone dirty, impure. I told my parents the truth about these things. They were understanding and helped me as much as they could. I was around 14 or 15 years old at the time. Since then it has been a constant struggle. From the end of my adolescence, throughout my youth, I have been fighting against these desires, carnal impulses and immorality. One of the lowest points I have been at was when, swallowed up by fantasies, I accidentally... soiled myself on a bus. Fortunately, the bus was empty, and it was close to home, but shame overcame me. I not only saw what other people drew, but I also made my own drawings. I brought my fetishes and fantasies to paper. But I always erased them, realizing how shameful, distorted, and immoral it was. So, in an act of exhaustion and desperation, I used the same paper I had drawn on to write a letter to God. I said that, just as that paper was marked by the erased traces of my fetishes, so was my heart. And so, no matter how much I tried to erase my drawings, but they always left marks, I tried to erase my desires and fantasies, but I couldn't. I desperately needed His help. That was also in 2019, a little before my genuine conversion to Christ, and the answer to that letter came years later. Once I was converted, the struggles around these issues didn't let up. But there was something I didn't understand, why, after being converted to Christ, I still resorted to fantasies and fetishes. It was as if a piece was missing, as if a barrier was preventing me from seeing the root of these fantasies and fetishes. It was only in the last months of 2024 that I had this clarification. After much research and meditation, getting to know myself, I discovered that the roots of these fetishes and fantasies were linked to deep desires in my soul for control, escapism and intimacy. Control is linked to planning and executing according to the plan. Setting goals, objectives, being assertive with things that I consider important to me. But things do not always go according to plan (sometimes nothing goes as planned) and this generates frustration and discontent. This is reflected in the fantasy of feeding the partner and making her fat (feederism), as a way of controlling the other's body. But this initial control is undermined as the partner grows more and more, reaching surreal and unreal dimensions, an expression of the feeling of lack of control? Maybe... But frustration leads to self-demand, to self-judgment. Taking it out on yourself, not meeting the expectations you place on yourself, tires you out, until you reach a point where you throw everything on yourself and give up control to something, or someone, bigger. This is perhaps the root of escapism. And finally, intimacy. Desire to connect, to unite with someone. In feederism, food is the link between the two people, the feeder and the feedee. In Vorarephilia, the connection is much deeper and more intimate, as it consists of swallowing or being swallowed by the partner. In my fantasies, after my partner devours everything and there is nothing left, I am swallowed by her and, in her stomach, I am absorbed by the gastric walls and become one with her. This can also be understood as a form of self-nullification, an escape from oneself and from self-demand. But the greater focus here is on extreme intimacy and the connection between the two. These deep desires for control, escapism and intimacy are unconsciously translated with fantasy and fetishes to bring these sensations and pleasures. But they are illusions, empty and fleeting. I would always repeat this cycle. However, the definitive answer was always in front of me: Christ Jesus. Christ has complete control, even over what we consider uncontrollable. He is in control and only He is great enough to control everything and bring relief and rest to the soul through deep intimacy with Him. Finally, that was the missing piece! After coming to this understanding, the monstrosity of these desires and fantasies no longer haunts me. This does not mean that I no longer feel attracted to curvy and large women, or to vore, but it is no longer as disproportionate as before. Now it is in its proper place. I thought that I would live my whole life with this problem and that the solution would only come in Glory. In fact, in Glory, we will be completely freed from the presence of sin. But God's mercy was so great that I can taste a little more of this freedom while still on this Earth. This is the phase I am currently in in life. There is still a long journey to travel, other dilemmas to resolve and a purpose to discover. I'm not sure what will come next, but I have faith that God will lead me to something that will be good, perfect, and pleasing.
>>60031 Kink can be part of a healthy balanced life and unlike what your fairy tale belief system insists there's no such thing as a bad desires. Ultimately we should be judged by our actions, not our thoughts. The only reason to police the latter is for control, which is the goal of every organized religion. In fact trying to repress kinky thoughts will lead you into far bigger trouble as they metastasize inside you. Eventually they'll find a way out, usually taking the rest of your life down with it. The fact you wrote a long, detailed, frankly kinda erotic manifesto tells me you're on the brink.
I don't relate to any of this because I'm not a feeder. I just like fat women, and not even exclusively. Good luck with your self-loathing and addiction.
>>47293 I have tried for years to get rid of it, hasn't worked. Now in a position where I have no excess time to waste on trying to get rid of it. So I bid you good luck but don't be surprised when you will not get rid of it at all. FYI, if you've gone long enough without it and you fuck some skinny woman you find attractive don't be surprised if for the next couple of weeks you can't get hard at skinny chicka anymore.
>>60039 Ah yes by all means bash a man's belief system because it suits you.
>>60083 Not sure why any belief system should be off-limits from criticism. Not to mention I wasn't bashing it randomly but in the context of him telling us how he manages his desires.
To those that have quit porn, how does it feel, why did you do it?
>>60373 Ummm this is like asking for former alcholics in a bar, this wouldn't be (or shouldn't be) a place for recovering addicts
If you're going to quit online feedism porn, if you're young and talented, it makes sense to live your truth by dating a bunch and introducing this to as many women you can until you meet your special one. Be a hero- plant seeds.

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