Yeah, I felt this for years and things have ~semi worked out for me~ sexually, but I was never able to find someone who fit all of my initial dating dreams (i.e. similar senses of humor, similar interests, shared fetish, mutual attraction, and not long distance). I’m actually about to get married to a huge hottie that I love deeply BUT we don’t share this as a fetish. I go through phases of caring a lot and then only caring a little about to sharing a fetish with someone, so it all kinda depends on the day. It sort of still works with her sexually because she’s a sub and really enjoys when I “grab her how I like” (and she literally has unintentionally nearly tripled in weight since we met, and she was already fat)… but also she was way more confident about her size when we first met (which I intentionally sought out someone like that), and the idea of feeding freaks her out, so I don’t think I’ll ever have an experience where I feel fully sexually compatible with her. She can be amazing, and she has moments of confidence, but they fluctuate, and it can be hard to feel comfortable fully loving someone’s body when they don’t love it themselves. (And I especially can’t playfully tease her about her weight, which is one of my biggest turn ons 😩) But our relationship ultimately works because I made the conscious choice to prioritize having both great personality compatibility and pretty good sexuality compatibility over just perfect sexual compatibility. And I still think that was a pretty great choice, even with the drawbacks. Because even if you were to have perfect, daily sex with your parter, you’d still probably spend 95% of your life with them outside of the bedroom. So ultimately my advice is: 1. Seek someone you’re attracted to and that you get along well with (in-person). You can usually tell if you enjoy being around them after 1-3 in-person dates. If you’re not excited to see them again for a 4th dates, just cut it off. 2. Try to sus out if they resent being fat (or becoming fat if they aren’t yet) quickly. While people can ultimately grow to love being fat, it’s a LOT easier to date someone who likes their body already (even if that confidence fades, it’s a lot easier for someone to regain confidence than it is for someone to develop it for the first time) 3. Accept that modern dating is a numbers game. Try your best, accept that it really fucking hurts sometimes, don’t ever try to force a connection with someone (bc it’s ultimately just a painful waste of time for you), and keep trying. 4. Don’t fuck with starting anything long distance. Props if you are able to maintain a text chain for more than a month with someone overseas. But I never could. I always recommend trying to set a casual coffee date (in a public place) asap so you can suss out your actual chemistry fast. 5. Idk if this is good advice, but I strangely found that shortly after I truly, to my core, accepted I would likely never find someone in my lifetime AND felt comfortable with that idea (which took years of rejection to get to), I met the love of my life. When you’re able to let go of your deep desire to find someone, suddenly everyone finds that confidence irresistible. Idk man. It works, but it sucks getting there. And that concludes my Ted Talk

bddy im jealous of guys who manage to find a partner

Dude if you’re as good looking as you say it’s easy to hook up with bbws

>>48155 But I'm not just going for any old fat girl, I'm going for conventionally hot women with a belly or a few extra pounds who also have great personalities and no significant mental issues. That narrows things down to about 1 in 100 women. And they're still in pretty high demand even if guys would prefer that they were thinner, I mean there are enough guys I know who fuck fat girls despite ridiculing them. I'm still surprised I find it easier to get thin girls than chubby ones though. All I can think is maybe me being fit looking makes chubbyish girls insecure or they assume we will have different lifestyles or something.

>>48150 Solid advice thanks The only thing is letting go of a desire to find someone seems like a bit of a paradox because if you're doing it with the underlying hope that it will help you come across as more confident and likely to find someone that will undermine itself, and as much as I try to tell myself that I don't care about the outcome, as soon as I meet a lady who ticks a lot of boxes - especially if she seems to be comfortable with being chubby - I suddenly find myself obsessing over her and trying not to fuck it up, which just increases the chances of fucking it up. Most guys can live by the advice that there are plenty more fish in the sea because if you're just into classically thin attractive women like most of my friends are then yeah of course every bar and club has about 5-10 of them, but if you're looking for a bit of a unicorn like we are then it's much rarer and it hurts a lot more when it doesn't work out. But what you said still stands

Guys aren't any better. I've been ghosted by long term dating partners for telling them I like their belly and find it attractive. Usually it's the college guys who experiment and "try it out," but they're also still insecure about it. I've yet to find a guy of sound mind and maturity who isn't so ashamed and closeted about it that I can actually talk about it completely openly. Anonymous chats are okay, but this is a very tactile kink and not having that is shitty. The fact that this forum is anonymous is telling.

>>48157 > I'm going for conventionally hot women with a belly or a few extra pounds who also have great personalities and no significant mental issues. That narrows things down to about 1 in 100 women Same thing on every thread. This passive aggressive bitch creepball complaining he can’t shoot out of his league.

>>48164 What city are you in? I just want to know for when your murders are reported on. You got some serious serial killer vibes, and not the sexy American Pyscho kind, Wayne Gacy type vibes.

>>48157 Then unfortunately you're going to have to roll the dice with being a major creep and hit on younger girls who don't know any better. The Overton window for what's attractive has shifted. Now even the ridiculously obese girls with great personalities are getting enough recognition and assurance from conventionally attractive men, so if you're not already pulling them in by the time your object of desire hits 25?I'm sorry, man. Before they would be hungry for attention and suck dicks in a Starbucks bathroom just for a shot at being someone's girlfriend. After that enough men have shown her genuine affection where she doesn't need to debase herself. Tl;Dr: Hook them before they know any better because you're sure as fuck not getting them on your own merits.

>>48170 This guy a legend. Nice job. But serial killer no one knew. Bodies underneath his bbq grille was wild and had hundred of ppl over every summer.

>>48171 Surely it’s the opposite man - trying to cuff a conventionally sexy woman in her early 20s is like trying to tame a lion, while women in their later 20s who are still on the market can feel their clock ticking and are more likely to commit to a guy. Though maybe a bit less wild and a lot of quality women are off the market by then. That’s been my experience anyway. I also find most girls in their early 20s have this chaotic energy I just can’t match now I’m almost 30 and gets real exhausting being around them. I guess for some guys it’s not an issue or it’s worth the sacrifice

>>48178 Chubby/Fat girls who are young still maintain an insecure energy. You're more or less reeling them in before they recognize their worth or whatever.

>>48178 > women in their later 20s who are still on the market can feel their clock ticking and are more likely to commit to a guy. Did you hear that on a podcast or something? Get some real life experience with women. You know nothing Jon Snow.

>>48120 It's very easy to get a woman to inflate. It's hit or miss if she enjoys it, though, but make her feel like she has control over you and you get a W. Since moving to Europe I've noticed European women like overweight men but the men seem to hate big butts. Why is that? Why are butts always too big Thin, fit. It's remarkably easy to get European women to inflate, to boot, but they always have some cartoon to compare it too, however.

>>48183 I’ve found just asking if you can put something in their ass, then coming back with a bike pump works pretty well. Especially on men, women might want to try it out on you first but that’s no biggie.

>>48180 it's common sense though, is there any (non-single mom) woman over 25 who's wants to stay single for no reason at all? at that point all of them have been in a relationship or situationship at least once and all the experience that they've gained will flow into the yard stick they measure every man against and in the worst case it's going to develop into coping mechanisms. coping mechanisms such as saying they're happy being childless or a happy single while buying a cat cuz they still intrinsically want to nuture a being and have a companion. At a certain age-range singledom becomes pathological for men too as they grow to be more egoistical having no one to care for but themselves.

>>48184 Same. I’m not even gay. Inflation fetish really makes you look past gender and species. The furry overlap makes me think its cartoon influenced.

>>48157 > who also have great personalities and no significant mental issues These women don't run around fat or get fatter. You're looking for a unicorn. The over eating and under moving necessary, requires some sort of dysregulation. An enthusiastic feede? She carrying some shit. If you haven't seen underlying mental chaos, the walls are still up. It's part of the package. Doubly so if they are conventionally hot. Running around thin commands a huge societal premium. Well adjusted women don't give it up for funsies.

>>48184 >Especially on men Hah, gay. >>48185 >>48186 Never happened to me. I did get some interested in drawing, though. The drawings include fat, but often only busty women with small asses.

>>48188 >Hah. gay. It’s not gay. If you had a feeder inflation fetish you’d understand. We all want to be married to gorgeous brilliant fat *women*, with good jobs and nice families, who enjoy getting inflated to the size of a beach ball and farting for hours just. Sometimes the person you end up inflating isn’t that fat, or good looking, or classy. That’s why this is a fetish—if I could get off to penis-in-vagina sex with a normal skinny woman I would. You inflate who you can. Or if they won’t let you, getting inflated might scratch the itch. (You’re really telling me it’s more gay to inflate a femboy than let a dominant woman shove a basketball pump up your ass?) Not gay. It’s a fetish. I’ll fuck anything that fills up like a balloon and has a wet opening I can stick my dick in. Not at all gay. Jerk.

the threshold of fatness where a woman is only attractive to niche of men is way way higher than you think. i've seen too many thin-fat couples to believe otherwise. the hindbrain of normie men is going to tolerate fatness if there's good chemistry

>>48190 It's awesome the concern here is people might think you're gay. The tube up a furry's ass, totally cool though. Just no homo, lol. That's the sort of autistic deviance I aspire to.

>>48193 Which reinforces the point that women are by and large the ones making other women feel bad for not conforming to the conventional beauty paradigm. They will deny it and say it’s internalised misogyny or whatever but the fact is even in the age of body acceptance it seems that women are still really cruel albeit in more subtle ways than men.

>>48180 The number of fairly attractive reasonably mentally sound women in their late 20s or 30s marry and have a kid with a guy who is comparatively less attractive and has nothing remarkable going for him is all the evidence I need. Women know that their fertility plunges at 35 and begin to worry about being alone forever even today where they can live independently easily enough there’s still immense social pressure.

>>48199 It’s not gay tho. Not gay. >>48211 This guy gets it. I’m only inflating them because women are so fickle and irrational. You don’t have to like them, it’s just the best you can do.

>>48210 Did Ben Shapiro write this? And you’re confused why you’re dicks dryer than a scarecrows vagina.

>>48224 I'm not quite sure why you've taken it upon yourself to deny every single comment I make without offering any constructive criticism and just resorting to high school tier insults that aren't even accurate but I suppose I am on an internet fetish board after all

>>48234 Kisame here. People are just tired of that ugly adult animation style pioneered by the Simpsons and South Park. This is why Totally Spies 2024 is sanitized. Really, I think comedians have no props to work with.

>>48235 Bro all of em is dumb as fuck. I dont near them

>>48234 Low iq trying to twist your words try again

>>48236 Most smart people I know are geewunners and hate MTV

>>48234 > I'm not quite sure why you've taken it upon yourself to deny every single comment I make without offering any constructive criticism and just resorting to high school tier insults that aren't even accurate but I suppose I am on an internet fetish board after Can you even read? No ones been anything but kind hearted and respectful to you in multiple threads full of support for what’s frankly a become a pity party. I’m shocked you’d take peoples tactful criticisms with a more open mind.

>>48245 Cant expect someone who father was never around to appreciate ethic of highest caliber

>>48246 Kisame here. Nobody wants s glurge. Ever noticed how the suits aren't in a rush to make Seventh Heaven, Dawson's Creek? It's because nobody actually wants positive uplifting messages

>>48247 Change your environment watch your life get better. People usually source of daily emotional triggers once you remove yourself it all gets better. The one being faulted is usually the silent suffering victim. No one tries to get away when everything is going good remember rhat

>>48248 What are you your talking about? Nobody wants these messages, especially in fetish art cause it's glurge. Aspirational and lofty tales without any coherency. This is why pregnancy fetish isn't selling despite boomers telling men go have babies. They're too insecure to gestate on back of a pick-up

>>48249 So why islamics vs jews

>>48250 I don't know what that is

>>48190 >>48222 All I'm saying is, women were literally built to become bigger and rounder, my anon. >>48199 Where do you get furries from? You're reading too much into it.

>>48261 > All I'm saying is, women were literally built to become bigger and rounder, my anon. Especially women. I still can’t believed I’m the one getting called “gay” with this Aussie whinging up a storm.

>>48262 >he doesn't visit a website for the sole purpose of getting called gay Gay.

Same here man. Im only 22 so I know I have time, but specifically just today I saw the face of the feedee that I've followed on tumblr for more than a year now. And holy shit, shes legitimately the hottest feedee I've seen and I've been in the scene for like 7 years. I got immediately depressed when I saw she had a partner who's responsible for her gain lmao I dont have any profound advice, but just know you're definitely not alone in this feeling. Its all luck at the end of the day.

>>48390 So much undercover on here all idiots & terrible sex

>>48160 Yeah, the fifth point Im making can definitely seem like a paradox, but only if you’re trying to let go of your desire of finding someone in order to ultimately find someone. I guess maybe a better way to say what I mean is- you have to love yourself enough that you’re comfortable with the idea that you realistically might never meet “the one” and you’ll still have a great life. Because you truly may never meet that person. And you can truly have a great life without a romantic partner. You need to find traits that you like about yourself, for your own sake, not for the sake of some hypothetical woman you might meet someday. And then once you are more okay with who you are and the idea of being alone, you have a healthier slot in your life to place any potential partner. Because now a relationship is not a “if I don’t have this I’ll be fucked” sort of thing, but more of a “it would be nice to have another person around, but it’s cool if not” sort of thing. I’ll also add that one thing that makes this whole process 1000x easier is investing the time towards building a few really deep friendships irl. It always surprised me, but I always felt the most confident about myself after periods of time where I was around my friends a lot. I think having some social connection made it easier to accept the idea that I dont need a romantic partner to not feel lonely

i got an ex girlfriend that i started going out with just off personality (she was very chubby, just my type, but we clicked just off natural shit) we were having a conversation early on about the shit we're into and i found out she's just as into this shit if not more than i am these girls are definitely out there and not as uncommon as it may seem, it's not hard to just get with a fat chick but to find someone into feedism or just being comfortable with their weight takes a little more searching keep going bruh, she out there

>>48180 That is real life experience you dumbass. Women get more desperate as they approach the big 3-0

>>48183 Not always Chick I am seeing now is a skinny ex-anorexic, getting her to eat anything is a constant uphill battle. She even flat out told me she wants to gain and get a little bit of a soft tummy (she had a six pack when we started seeing each other) but her old eating habits make this pretty hard. She skips meals and is frequently not hungry enough to finish anything. My last two exes were both ex-fatties so for them it was super easy. They basically overfed themselves.

>>48666 Have you met a woman?

>>48667 You see, friend. Anorexics have a reason why they don't like eating, and stuffing is a lot of eating. Pumping a woman full with air is very different from getting someone who's got a reason not to eat at all into eating so much it shows.

>>48694 This guy inflates. What a Chad. Plus that’s gotta be a lot more acceptable to fat phobic women/men, temporarily expanded.

>>48696 It's a bit of work to get them to accept a tube into the butthole. Thankfully Europeans have an oddly high amount of proverbs relating to being blown up. Weird, but very helpful.

>>48694 It's a bit like playing on challenge mode, but my labor is yielding fruit. Helps when she is also onboard with gaining and actually asks me to make her eat more. I really lucked out with her. Never been into inflation, already had her do some small bloats. But to each his own.

>>48912 I'm happy for you, anon. Fetishes are like tossing a coin. She's either into it herself or she's into indulging you. Inflation can get her into the moods if you know what I'm saying.

>>48986 We need to combine the boards. There’s too much overlap between inflationfags and feederfags it’s basically the same fetish. Fewer works for the mods as well.