>>54779 I wouldn't date a girl who's not happy about her looks. Girls who hate their body tend to be mentally fucked up. This usually leads to problems to people around them (especially but not limited to their bfs).

Yes and ended up losing in the end. My advice, make sure her personality is worth it to stay with her. Communicate that your needs are important. If she won't participate in feederism decide if this is crucial to you in a relationship. If it is, let her down gently.

>>54779 One thing you need to consider is this: How easy would it be to find an actual feedee? I think it would be very difficult. Fat girls are a dime a dozen. Fat girls who actually look good are rarer. Fat girls who actually look good and don't hate being fat are even rarer. Fat girls who look good, don't hate being fat, and are into feedism? Forget about it lol

>>54791 Its insanely weird how much losers here act like it’s impossible to find a kinky body positive women and/or at least a fat bitch with a humiliation kink. If you’re at all attractive and not a complete loser fat women will be happy to get a chance with you. If a fat woman is disgusted by your fat fetish it’s only because she’s disgusted by YOU. They’re not self hating, they just hate that the best they can pull is a loser whose into her humiliation and dependence.

I've never broken up with anyone in the pursuit of feedism, but as I've come to terms with my fat-centric sexuality, I've made sure to include feedism high on my list when considering my romantic partners. If anyone I'm interested in is on the fence about it, they've got to make up for it in just about every other way possible, which is kind of where I ended up! I did have relationships that were strained when I was younger bc my partners hated their fat bodies, but I realized pretty soon after dating a feedee who loved her body: you're not asking for too much by looking for someone who is fat (and if you're extra-lucky, getting fatter) and loving it. I've been lucky enough to bounce between a few different partners who were into feedism; feedists being a small (heh) community, being comfortable and open about my preferences, and being a fairly decent all-round dude took me a pretty long way when it came to finding the right (fat) women. Making myself semi-visible back in my dating days in the 2010s literally created a queue of interested fat/feedist women almost every time I had a breakup... I admit that time period was a great time, perhaps the best time ever to be dating feedist/fat women; it was pre-ozempic, and before most dating apps, so a lot of fat women and feedists found their way to the same pockets of the internet. Even a lot of current ultra-sized webmodels who are still in the game were single, still (mostly) mobile, and mingling... you just had to put in the effort to meet them. Some of them even slid DMs my way just from being interested in/engaging with their content. I won't get into naming names, but will say they were BIGGUNS and I still wonder/daydream about what life could have been like if I pursued them more seriously. /tangent of the good ol' days aside... I think you'll find your equilibrium with the fetish as you date more. After serial-dating a bunch of feedees. bbws, ssbbws, gainers, etc, I ended up with a wife who loves all the same things I do, is gorgeous to the point that even people who aren't attracted to fat girls still find her hot, is fat as hell (and getting fatter), and loves her body. She's not technically a feedist, but because of everything else, she meets my needs and doesn't need to be. Listen to your gut about your priorities. If this fetish is something you find yourself constantly thinking about with a current partner, it's time to reassess things for the sake of your own happiness. It's not fair to either of you in the relationship.

>>54793 You're right. If only I were as alpha and macho as you. Fuck off, retard

>>54812 Do you even lift? I bet your macros are pure pasta. I’d bet you aren’t even 175cm. No wonder your country lost the war.

>>54813 >Do you even lift bro? Pure meat head, not a brain cell in your whole entire head I'd say What war? I'm assuming you got your flags wrong due to the pasta reference. We are potato n***ers, retard. Get your flags right you spastic fuck >I'd bet you aren't even 175cm Didn't your country lose to a bunch of rice farmers who were all like 150cm max? So how about you exercise your brain instead, you absolute fucking mongoloid, and piss off?

>>54890 Shut up you Pikey bastard. The Irish are basically just Gypsies who got lucky the Germans didn’t kill them with the rest of the undesirables. Inbred losers with bad genes. You guys are short and ugly. Poor weak and built for nothing but subjugation. Comparing yourself to the ex-slave population dominating all professional sports is off base. You’re drunken genetic waste and everyone in Europe thinks so.

>>54890 Ever notice Ireland never invented one thing or gave the world one important person?

>>54910 Huh? Nazi Germany was pretty Hibernophile, this makes no sense.

>>54910 Actually the Irish have some of the most interesting DNA that is not inbred. Strange comment. Pakistanis invading the UK have scientifically verifiable record levels of inbreeding of any population on Earth. The Celtic people of Europe and Asia and North Africa commonly would bring women to trade to other cultures throughout their expeditions, it was a common aspect of their culture that existed over 10,000 years (that's Neolithic) and this is still present in their DNA today. As for the socialist of the NAZI party in Hitler's Germany they actually tried to get the Celts throughout Europe including particularly Ireland and Scotland to fight against the British as the Western Front was collapsing on Hitler. There was a famous Scottish NAZI sympathizer, can't remember his name, that was to meet with the NAZIs and both agents were arrested. The Celts on average actually have very good DNA. They have high levels of what are often considered the Athletic genes, highly intelligent despite in reltaively recent modern times living quite often in 3rd world conditions. The Celts as a whole dominated most of Europe, parts of Asia, the Middle East and parts of North Africa for several millenia. They had early steel perhaps through design, with nearly pure iron blades showing repeatedly the introduction of carbon into the metallurgy process. They invented Chainmail, Penicillin (Alexander Flemington) was Scottish (Celtic), just to name a few things.

>>54890 Irish people are terrorists and terrorist sympathizers. They’re a superstitiously religious group that more closely resembles ISIS, Al-Jazzerra, and other Islamofacist theocracies.

>>54910 Listen, you're ignorant and stupid and that's ok! God loves all this creations, even his mistakes like you You spout nonsense like a child throwing a tantrum and vomit out claims with no factual backing >you guys are short and ugly. I am sigma alpha chad, unlike you Literal child speech. Go watch your Thomas Shelby quote edits on tiktok I am not a pikey, that word is specifically reserved for Irish Travellers, a separate, though related, ethnic group. So get your ethnology right, retard. As has been already pointed out by >>54911 and >>54913 the Nazis tried to collaborate with Irish nationalists (most notably the IRA but they over estimated IRA capabilities at the time). The Germans also had no ambitions in Ireland, we weren't on their radar. Most historians agree that "Operation Green" , the Nazi plan to invade Ireland, was more of a credible threat to Britain rather than an actual plan. The Germans also have for a long time had a great affinity for Irish culture and folklore and still do, similar to their fascination with Native Americans and Westerns >Poor Literally one of the richest countries in Europe (pipsqueak still thinks its the 19th Century) >Weak Literally have some of the best athletes in the world but go off Militarily, sure, but that's due to our small population and neutrality With regards to fighting abilities, Irish Americans make up nearly 60% of all US Medal of Honour Recipients. Explain that one >Built for subjugation The only one built for subjugation is you lil bub. You've proven your complete lack of cognitive abilities, making you easily exploitable. You literally don't have the ability to think properly and you know nothing about anything >Genetic waste That's you lad, stop projecting >Never invented one thing or gave the world one important person Heres 3 off my head Modern Chemistry Modern Submarines Modern Tanks And Ireland gave the world me, the guy who is shagging your slag of a mother >>54914 Obviously you've never even been to Ireland, not to mention probably anywhere else in the world. Define terrorist. Think America's hands are clean?  Isn't America all for self determination and freedom? You cannot on one hand say you stand for that and then actively support the suppression of groups that espouse that ideal >Comparison to Islamic extremists Holy shit do you know anything? Irish "terrorists" are mostly socialists and left leaning, literally opposed to religion. Irish nationalism is not at its core a religious ideology. Yes, many push for this strictly Catholic Irish identity in some parts but that's not the core. Irish nationalists don't engage in violence in the name of God or the Pope you fucking retard >Al-Jazeera The fucking news channel... Are you serious?  This must clearly be rage bait because otherwise this spastic actually has something seriously wrong with him

>>54916 Ok bro. Look you’re in the least wealthy and unimportant country in the UK. Stop dickriding on what bread London won for you.

>>54917 Look bro, you failed 1st grade geography but at the end of the day your mum is still a slag 🤷‍♂️

>>54919 Ireland is 100% part of the British empire. Everyone knows that. Shouldn’t you be drunkenly beating your pregnant barefoot wife for burning the potatoes hash?

>>54920 >Shouldn’t you be drunkenly beating your pregnant barefoot wife for burning the potatoes hash? I will right after I give your mother and that BOP of hers a right Céad míle fáilte

>>54916 Kisame here, I have no idea why Americans are ignorant about Irish culture given that big city liberals typically love European style socialism. I guess America is stuck in 9/11 mode cause it's been non-stop talk about terrorism. I can see the election switching over to Trump cause neocons want to act out their 80s action movie fantasy. I guess Connor McGregor dominating UFC is over. There's a lot of tough guys still trying to exploit a crisis for votes. I guess whatever comic book villain country club conservatives are fighting hasn't materialized. My ex governor and his guardian angels stepson talked about how they fight off twelve year olds at the UES. I don't live in that version of America. I guess the electronic kiosks are working too well and ignoring the crazies, or America won't admit Raising Caines suck

>>54813 I just wanna say that the guy replying to you is not me, it's someone else posting from Ireland / using a VPN. I knew you were just trolling by insinuating that you thought I was Italian, I just didn't think it warranted a response. Although it is amusing to see how much of a shitshow this has devolved into. The truth about Ireland is that we were an irrelevant 3rd world shithole for basically all of human history up until about 30 years ago, and now we're just a neoliberal tax haven shithole.

Daoine gorma i bpáras

>>54940 > The truth about Ireland is that we were an irrelevant 3rd world shithole for basically all of human history up until about 30 years ago, and now we're just a neoliberal tax haven shithole. Basically, Ireland was Gaza before Gaza was Gaza. It was only a third world country because the civilized British consider war crimes and genocide a valid economic strategy

>>54797 What this man says is so true. Assess what aspects from this fetish you really need, and what is a nice to have for you, and act accordingly. Being interested in feedism was a nice to have, being fat, intelligent and not being repulsed by their own body or by me liking their body were my essentials. And as a bonus I got that she is very much anti-wls, so I am quite safe for the future as well. My only regret is not having dated / fwb’ed bigger / ssbbw girls when I was at university. I was too shy and insecure at that time, and now I regret it.

>>54793 In the US where obesity is much more prevalent than here, that might be easy. I don’t want to stereotype, but finding someone who is nice, decent, reasonably intelligent, got her act together, is fat and doesn’t want to loose the extra weight, is hard. It probably became easier in recent years, but they are still precious unicorns around here.

As horny as the idea is, I don't really think I want to give my life over to engaging with this fetish full time. Because after you cum... then what? Much better to have balance. A soft partner who likes their body and is happy to indulge me in explicit feedism stuff sometimes, and happy for it to be a minor part of the relationship (e.g. being cute about ordering dessert) in general. But can also join me in the rest of my life, without needing special consideration for e.g. walking long distances, fitting into seats, or being simply unable to do stuff like hiking. This is quite achievable in my experience. And honestly, as hot as having sex with very fat women is, I prefer smallfats overall. I've realised that the types of bodies I like in porn don't really map to what I like in real sexual encounters. Which should not be surprising, but I think feedist porn is particularly prone to escalation of this sort.

>>54979 Even in the UK (the fattest country in Europe) it's fairly difficult to find a suitable fat woman. Despite this I've managed to find myself a very nice 350 pound Texan. Recently her friend was in town and decided to she me his Tinder in Texas. It was as though there wasn't anyone under 200 pounds.

>>54970 Tampon Tim was hired cause he wasn't a hard intellectual like Shapiro and Biden, which means he's not going to get into a grudge match with the auto industry over data. Democrats are losing because Israel keeps lying to Biden, which is hurting him with both protestors. This could cause Harris to lose cause now Adams is commiting perjury under oath, threatening to take others with him

>>54979 Obesity is on the decline cause fast food isn't affordable. It's now 17 bucks which is Manhattan prices for a good meal. Women like Nancy Mace don't want to be with fat black intellectuals like Dyson. It doesnt help titcows are fuck meat for obese men

>>54990 There’s still plenty of deals out there if you use the apps. My wife and I regularly eat McDonald’s for less than $10 total (using deals from her phone and mine).

>>54979 > finding someone who is nice, decent, reasonably intelligent, got her act together, is fat and doesn’t want to loose the extra weight, is hard. If you can’t get with hot skinny women who are nice, decent, smart, etc—why do you think you can get a woman who’s all that plus your-type? You plenty of us men are into these women. You can’t pull them because they’re dating better men. End of story faggot.

>>54988 I have no problem finding hot fatties to date, must be a you problem.

>>54956 Cé a bhí i bPáras? kek. Tá a lán fír gorma agus amadáin ar láithreán gréasáin seo. Sin mar a bhíonn. Is breá liom cailíní ramhair, sin é. >>54970 Yeah, pretty much. >>54979 That's what I'm saying. I consider myself very lucky to have gotten with a few nice looking SSBBWs, even though most of them hated being fat and wrecked my head by the end.

>>54998 Gotta love those cailíní ramhair

>>54997 We've got our own British Casanova over here!

>>55001 >We've got our own British Casanova over here! Imagine being a big enough loser to talk this way about a man dating obese women

>>55004 Someone already said being fat isn't enough.

>>55006 Men who are nice, decent, reasonably intelligent, got his act together and have a fat fetish are the type of men who can and should date these women.

My current girlfriend is super great and spends tons of money on lavishing me in gifts. She never expects me to pay for dinner and likes to think of me as her “sugar baby”. We also have really great sex and she’s pretty low maintenance other than wanting to call every day. However she’s only like 270 and while she has a big ass and really fat thighs but she has a flat belly. She also lives far away and I only see her every two weeks. I keep having dreams about my previous ex who was much fatter and I’m not totally over her even though I was the one to dump her. Today I saw a really fat cute girl in the elevator and I got an instant erection and had such an urge to ask her out but I didn’t and it’s been bothering me all day. I’m considering dumping her and I really don’t see a future together but I hate breaking up so much and I will miss her.

>>55026 You are living the life. Could totally come clean to your current girlfriend you want to see her enjoy herself and grow and I wouldn't be surprise she would totally do it.

>>55026 Ah, I had the "fat sugar mama" experience too. She was a big (no pun intended) shot corporate lawyer. She was great in the sack and great company to hang around with too. Sadly she just up and ghosted me one day out of the blue.

Regrettably, I did it. I was in a three-year relationship with a girl I'll call Anna. We were happy together and a really good match, except for one thing: our sex life. She liked it, and I kind of liked it too, but only because I had to imagine her being mega obese just to get an erection. It worked to a point, but as many of you might guess, I wasn’t completely happy. Everything changed when we went to university. Anna went to study sociology, and I went to study math. In my class, there was this girl—let's call her Paula. At the time, she was, hands down, the fattest person I had ever seen in real life, probably around 180 kg. During lectures, she had to use two folding chairs in the auditorium, and they would creak loudly. She was the stereotypical fat, nerdy slob: round face, glasses, ponytail, always sweaty and smelly. Surprisingly, though, she wasn’t shy or an outcast. In our group, no one was really an outcast, and we had a lot of quirky people, to say the least. During our first semester, Paula and I became close. We had everything in common. While working on a project together, I accidentally discovered her browser history (yes, for real, it was an accident). I was completely lost and didn’t know what to do. By the second semester, after winter break, we had a party. Everyone was super drunk, and while we were alone in the kitchen making more drinks, I told her that I knew she was a feedee and that I was a feeder. She was surprised. We talked about it while still drinking, but nothing happened that night. The next day, back in class, I found a note in my backpack from Paula saying she’d love to have a feeder like me. Old school I know. For the next few days, I talked to my closest friends about my situation (leaving out a few kink details). They weren’t much help, to be honest. The moment I really regret came one Friday after classes. I was so confused about myself, my relationship, and my future. So, in the most "sane" way possible, I used a random online wheel to decide for me. The choice was between staying with Anna or starting something with Paula. I spun the wheel three times, and all three times, it landed on Paula. So that same day, I broke up with Anna and met Paula that evening to tell her everything. Fast forward to now: we’re in our last year of university, and our relationship is going really well. Paula recently hit our milestone of 210 kg a few weeks ago, and we’re happy together. However, a few weeks after I started dating Paula, Anna ran into us at McDonald's and had a complete meltdown—crying, screaming, the whole thing. She couldn’t believe I had broken up with her for someone so disgustingly obese. Paula didn’t help the situation by saying that maybe if Anna wasn’t so "disgusting," I wouldn’t have left her. In the end, Anna left in tears. From what I know, she never really recovered mentally from our breakup. Our mutual friends told me she attempted suicide once and dropped out after the first year of university. I don’t know what happened to her after that. So yeah, this is the story of how I left a somewhat happy relationship with a skinny girl to be happy with someone who’s morbidly obese.

>>55149 You started your post with “regrettably I did it.” But honestly, other than your ex not handling it well, it doesn’t sound that bad. Otherwise you wouldn’t be living the dream of having 460lb feedee girlfriend before either of you have even left university. All three of you are young—likely not the last relationship for any of you. If nothing else, use the opportunity to learn about dating, yourself, and adulthood. Hope to hear how it goes!

>>55026 >However she’s only like 270 and while she has a big ass and really fat thighs but she has a flat belly Sounds like the dream for me tbh

>>55149 The LARP radar is off the fucking charts.

>>54791 You forgot the mentally ill feedees, the most common type of feedee I’ve encountered. If you think about it, you have to be mental to want to be 400lbs and actually go through with it. It’s tough enough finding a woman who can mentally handle gaining weight, add in a fetish? Not convinced it exists.

My now wife left me a few years ago, but it was only for a week, and now we are happily together and married. But in that time I was like fuck it lets go all in and take some fat bitches out to a buffet and do some real deep kink shit. We obviously ended up working it out before I ever had a chance to do anything with anyone. Its really the opposite answer to your question but I would have to say no I do not have any regrets about choosing my wife over my kink. Shes not into feederism at all, but we've opened up about it more and we do a bit of kinky stuff now. She is also about 375# right now and hot as fuck so that helps. Only thing I gotta say to yall especially the younger fellas is to keep telling your partners how attractive they are and keep talking reinforcing your attraction to them. It probably wont suddenly turn them into a submissive feedee but my wife has absolutely started to feel more comfortable and attractive about being fat.

>>55393 Wise words. When I've been out of relationships I would casually date the biggest girls I could find on the UK bbw websites and the reality is, most of them have issues, or are trailer park/rough as fuck individuals (or usually both). In my opinion, there really aren't that many feedees out there, they're just content that someone has shown an interest in them and their self-esteem is usually low enough that they can deliver what a feeder would expect in return, they:be accepted being fat by way of necessity, a poor diet of crap food because it's cheap and what they can afford.. Dating someone who is your type who you are sexually attracted to and you get along with aside from attraction is pretty much key. Any FA or a fat fetish has it in their heads they want a 600lbs girl but the reality is completely different. As this guy says, a 375lbs wife who is hot as fuck in your eyes is pretty much perfect. More than fat enough to get your kinks and usually mobile enough that day to day life is only mildly affected. And yes, when you tell and show your partner she's hot as fuck whilst being medically double her ideal weight is absolute key. I can't say my wife loves being 350lbs, but she isn't doing much about it until she gets heavier and drops to 300-320, but she has no problem jumping on top of me or having me touch her literally anywhere naked when in bed. >>55149 If this isn't a LARP, well done on Paula having the confidence in herself to quash Anna on trying a bit of body shaming and bullying. Next time, ensure you're the person who is jumping to her defense. I had an altercation with an ex who wouldn't let go. Got a pint of lager poured over my head for no other reason than splitting up with her and being seen with a comparatively bigger girl than her 4 months later on. We grew apart, it's not like she got dumped by me.

>>55396 This is my reason for not wanting to breakup with a fat gf even though she isn't a feedee. She has a decent job, smart, funny, just doesn't like being fat but lets me play with her fat. All the feedees I've spoken to on Feabie seem to have crap jobs are pretty boring, their redeeming feature is they are fat af and not ashamed about being fat. But also this is probably an act and they aren't super confident being fat. Should have fucked feedees when I was younger at uni instead of dating skinny girls.

>>55413 I think you've answered your own question here. The fact is, your partner is gonna struggle with her weight all her life and will likely lose to 250 before going back up again. Just be positive about her body and she'll gradually not care as much when she knows you're so into her. And without sounding presumptious, lay off the 500lbs + superfat porn a little. It distorts your brain to fuck. I dated a 500lbs girl in my youth and to be honest, as much as you get off on the fat, the rest of the relationship went sour so quick I really should have finished it far sooner. I've slept with a few 400+ aswell and it's eventually the same deal. You gotta have deep pockets to date a superfat. It really isn't all it's cracked up to be. Stick with your gf, she sounds like a keeper.

>>54779 I think it's hard to find the perfect dynamic that is worth throwing it all away for. Much of this stays fantasy for us because not much of it is actually accessible IRL

>>54987 >And honestly, as hot as having sex with very fat women is, I prefer smallfats overall. I've realised that the types of bodies I like in porn don't really map to what I like in real sexual encounters. Which should not be surprising, but I think feedist porn is particularly prone to escalation of this sort. Agreed