I just walk up and say “you look hungry, want to get something to eat”, It works so often and if your hot she’s probably in the know about feederism and might pig out hoping you’ll date her.

>>57371 If most fat girls are as insecure as I think they're, then there's no way a majority of them won't see that as you mocking them.

Probably doesn't count but I cold approached a girl at my gym, had a chat, got her snap and I drove her home once we were finished. She turned out to be super autistic and over shared so much even I lost my interest even if she literally sent me nudes and snaps begging me to fuck her.

>>57378 Most fat girls are some kind of mentally ill, autistic, retarded or working class. The best move is to find a mid sized women that’s only not skinny because she loves food and get her fat.

I will share my personal discovery with you. Just walk up to the woman of your dreams and politely say these exact words, "Excuse me, may I offer you a compliment?" She WILL say, "Okay." (actually she sometimes will say "What?" like she can't believe her ears) Then simply pick the one thing (beside her weight) that attracted you in the first place, such as: "You have the most beautiful smile." BE SINCERE. Look her in the eyes. The worst she will do is say, "Thank you," and turn away. More often, after "Thanks," she will blush and and the door is open! You follow up with something like, "As a matter of fact, I think you look gorgeous!" She will be receptive for more. Introduce yourself, the rest is up to you. This has worked many times, probably because I acted as a gentleman and showed her respect.

>>57379 Good, leave the autists for us autists.

>>57383 So true!

>>57383 Great strategy here. This works, being normal works.

>>57915 I would say that the opener is a bit weird (waiting for a response after "may I offer you a compliment", like, that's definitely not normal in the US at least, maybe in some other country). But the general approach works for sure. Just a totally normal "can I just say I think you look beautiful?" If you're at a normal place for hookups like a bar or club then it'll pretty much always work unless you look like shit (getting any farther is a different question, plenty of women try to check broader compatibility before sleeping with someone, but just to get in the door, it works). If you're literally just in public then you'll get the normal ratio of "not interested" or "I'm taken" or "uh... thanks *turns away from you*".

>>57383 yes, I've only approached twice though. first was this fat torta at a club who knew like every emo song that played. I asked her if she wanted to dance, and she said yes. it was so hot, because i dont think she realized how big she was while she was dancing. second time was another fat bitch, and I bought us drinks and she got wasted off of cheap ass soju, and then she made me go get 20 bucks worth of tacos at some shitty food truck, but i got to make out with her. I ghosted both of them. >>57383 this is the gayest shit ever

>Approach fat woman at mall >The air suddenly feels tighter around her >mfw feel all my bones breaking >My body is crushed and condensed into a moon that orbits her wide frame >I can think and feel, but I can't speak >I can't scream

>>59271 What's gay about complimenting the woman of your dreams?! Would be gay not to do it bc you're sacred of offending her with your "toxic masculinity" and some other woke nonsense. In these crazy times doing this is an act of pure bravery

>>57366 Onpy approached one BBW in person, once in college. We did wind up going on a date but didn't really have any chemistry beyond the physical attraction, so it fizzled out. Any other women I dated by approaching them (or them approaching me) wouldn't classify as BBW. I wasn't very confident about being attracted to bigger women until my early 20s so didn't date too many early on. I had way better luck with online dating after college. That's how I eventually met my wife.

>>57371 I know this is a troll comment, but in case some young guy reading this can't tell, there's a 0% chance this will work. Do not do this lol. She will not go out with you.

>>59342 The trick to finding a wife is speedrunning through the stages of exposing your fetish to her and seeing if she’s game. If you can get that done on the first date good for you. Speaking of percents. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take buddy.

Seriously? I approach fat women and all the time. Some women are awesome, and some women are weird. You don’t know until you strike up a conversation.

>>59349 Most women suck from my experience

>>59344 Oh you're a tough guy I see. A big strong boy. I've been dating a model for ten years, she's at the top of /ssbbw daily. I post here cause I'm bored lol. We laugh about all the crazy shit you guys say. I just try to post helpful stuff every now and then to help someone bag a fat girl, even though you're all retarded and none of you listen ever. I've said it before: do not bring up this fetish with any girl, no matter what she weighs, under any circumstances, at any time. WAIT FOR HER TO BRING IT UP FIRST. If you bring it up first will instantly and permanently scare her away. If she's fat, she's going to ask if you're into fat girls at some point. Until then, just talk about normal stuff.

>>59362 Ok >>59344 is maybe a bit of cocky dick but you're full of shit >I've been dating a model for ten years, she's at the top of /ssbbw daily Prove it or you are larping but you are right about bringing up the fetish part

>Who here has approached a fat chick in public? Never have and never will. Even fatties want Chad and I am not Chad.

>>59738 Actually you would be surprised most fat woman don't mind as long as you are polite and respectful.

I have, I’m just autistic and ugly so I’m never really successful

>>57379 I guess so, but this was not regular 'tism but full on retardation like her telling me about how I should hope she didn't get an epileptic seizure in my car because she'd shit out my seats. Was probably what you'd call midsize, very weird fat distributon. Super skinny arms and legs, had literally no strength even by small woman standards, and a quite pudgy belly.

I can't flirt with fat chicks (or hold a conversation in general) because I fail 2 fundamental steps: Actually caring about that person/whatever they're talking about And I'm take everything too seriously

I used to do that. Will probably do that after becoming single again. Success rate is lower than I wanted to, but higher than you might think. I've met my ex wife this way (on a unique moment when we both happened to be without a car and both attempted to use public transportation). We had a really pleasant marriage which lasted four years. Hew peak weight was around 410-420 lbs. We moved on, but we loved our time together, have huge respect and occasionally chat on the phone. Besides the marriage I've got the following relationships by approaching in public: 1. A tall big-assed girl. Really beautiful (yes, huge) lass. Went to the theater once or twice. She asked me to help her restore sd card files and I did. There was some seriously religious media on there. At the time it was more disturbing to me than finding crime footage. I did not yet knew that strongly religious chicks are actually crazy. So I slowly faded away, stopped chatting and moved on. 2. A perfectly round not tall belly girl. A total gem with a lovely face. Got into relationships with, sex was perfect despite her barely doing anything. Loved her juices. Dealbreaker was her obsession with kids (she worked daycare because she loved kids that much, any kids) and different priorities at the time. I've encountered her contact years later, but did not pursue relationships again. At our first run she was 26, I was 21. When we crodssed paths once again I was 33. She's still looks great though. Her weight doesn't seem to change though, circa 320-350 I'd say. 3. A nice chick with wonderful figure (with belly, ass, fat limbs and smaller tits), fantastic white skin, black hair and one of the nicest scents I've encountered. We got into some sort of relationships where I cared for her and we talked a lot, she helped me by finding clients for my business. Somehow we never got intimate and till this day I dunno why. She also could outdrink a sailor and sang karaoke like an opera singer. Those are 4 I've met purely in public, literally on the street. I did not include those I've studied with, worked with or encountered at some actual places like coffee spots, malls, restaurants, etc. My point is - go for it. The worst thing could happen - you'll be told to get lost. The best - you may find exactly what you've been looking for.

>>61224 Thanks for sharing your story. I'm only 20 and freshman at university and i'm kinda new to asking out girls in public. Tried it twice this year but to no avail. With the first one i went on a date, she was gorgeous, short, big ass, big thighs, little bit of belly. But there was no spark. The second one just declined my invitation to a cup of coffee. The second one happened yesterday and I was kinda sad because of it, but reading your story kinda helped me, thanks.

Dropping my story to my fellow soldiers. I despite many trials and tribulations usually get success as big ladies and I seem to have a mutual like for each other. Even when I was younger my admirers were larger than Me. Recently, I've used my confidence and channeled it into something good as I've noticed that I look better than I perceive myself. Most of the time it's the cadence you approach with. Keep your back straight and you're head held high and it will payoff. The first time I did this was with a friend of a friend. She had long red hair and dorky glasses with undefined legs and a turkey neck, I didn't know her that well, and asked if she liked to get to know me better, and promptly added her on social. She's definitely insecure which Is sad because it's a pattern with my old partners (never eats infront of me etc) a lot of the people around us take the mick and its sad to see, just reassure her to keep her head down. She's smitten by me but we both agree that she need to work on herself because it wouldn't be a healthy relationship. A couple weeks ago I cold approached the girl at the bus-stop she didn't have much weight on her stomach but most was on-top and behind, she owns it too, just approached with a simple "excuse me. Sorry to interrupt but I saw you around and thought you were pretty and wondering " she cut me off and explained she had a boyfriend. But wouldn't mind having one of my socials. To chat and that she admired my confidence. Confidence is the true carrier. For the people who feel ugly, own that shit. Comb your hair wear nice clothes carry yourself and you will fit in like a glove with the girl you desire the most. Your confidence will trick people into being attractive.

Yeah I approached a fat chick yesterday at a block party and she took the cigarette out of my mouth and threw it on the ground. (She was really drunk and mad at me for misgendering her friend, I hate trannies)

Yet another one to report. I was playing football with my mates the other day. It was hot in the UK so I decided to touch grass lol. Anyway, there was this girl playing on the pitch across from us. She was quite long and her weight distributed well across her body. I decided to approach her as she Sat down to get rest. And asked if she was single, unfortunately soldiers she wasn't, but I think she was shocked as when I asked the question she asked "what me!" as if she didn't expect someone as confident and good looking as me to approach her. I said oh, that's no problem. Just thought I'd give it a try" she replied with a simple "yeah that's completely fine " before I walked off.

OP here. I still haven't approached a bbw in public. Women are scary.

>>62386 Well I don't necessarily believe that you can be scared of women, I think it's more the fact your scared of the conversation rather than the gender, like of course when I ask these girls I'm pretty damn nervous inside, and that coincides with fear. But if you can rewire your brain and have genuine conversations then you start to realise that it's the idea, of being bold and approaching that your brain is scared of. Waffle over Hope it makes sense what I'm trying to say.

>> 57366 I have many many times, most failed because they walked away after a simple thank you or I'm not interested. I will share 3 specific moments so the class can learn from them, so take notes anons. 1) I'm working the afternoon shift in a comic book store, smooth but uneventful Thursday. All the regulars already came or will show up on Friday, it's that 'too quiet' day of a work week, ask any shop guy and they'll agree. I'm making the rounds in the back where all the trades/manga are, someone else was covering the front where the toys/shirts were. I make a turn and there she is: a 350 lb dark skinned Dominican with shoulder blade black hair, bubble butt, the only thunder thighs, very thick arms, honka bazongas, a belly just like chubbychiquita's, and a very subtle double chin with a cute button nosed face. I said 'Hi, I'll be walking around the back as any good shopkeep would, let me know if you need anything'. She giggled and wanted to find horror mangas, which we had because I just restocked a bunch of them. Gave her some good recs, grabbed a nearby store business card, write my number on it and say 'if you need any other recs at any time, give me a call. I'm always happy to help a pretty girl in a pretty purple hoodie'. We got a coffee date and a two month relationship as well as a punch in both of our V cards the day after. Be kind, show you're smart in something you actually are, and show you like the soul the fat holds, not just the fat. The fat helps, but the soul that gets them fat is what you gotta say you like. It works, I promise on my life it works. 2)Rewind a couple years, I'm in college in my public speaking class. It's the middle of the semester, I was a much shyer guy then but I was more subtle in looking at fatties irl. I had more of a fear instinct then. Anyway, there was a HUGE bitch in the class, 6'1", Italian, at least 550 and built like a walking fridge. All width and torso/gut, massive neck fat and thighs, big big arms but relatively flat ass and small titties. She was also SUPER SHY, could never fit in any chair, always Frankenstein'd two desk/chair combos so she could fit in something that wasn't the floor or a beach chair from home. We've all seen one like her before. I got randomly assigned to her, never talked to her in class before so my dumb ass really said 'hi, I'm anon. It's kinda funny the two quietest people in class are together, huh, big mama?' The autism was too real that day, but she took it as breaking the ice kind of humor and I got an A on the project and a makeout session under the professor's desk. Pretty gud, just grabbing a wall of fat like that. Took a good fifteen minutes to get her up and walking again, but it was pretty good. Sometimes, rizz 'em with the 'tism. It's risky, but gives results. 3) You made it this far, just be real or be real autistic. It works, I promise. Best of luck to all anons reading this

>>62774 He he that second experience sounds tops especially with her humour reflecting yours. Talking about approaches, the other day I caught the bus with a girl and I sat with her friends on the bus, they were chatting for about twenty minutes until my friend bursts out with "x girl finds you attractive" exchanged numbers and we've been chatting for a while. She's not big by any means but it's a nice experience to have and it's flattering.

>>62774 Did you ever end up going farther with any of them? How did you go from just being in the same group to making out in the classroom?

>>62774 >Sometimes, rizz 'em with the 'tism. It's risky, but gives results. Yall, this approach absolutely works. Forever Alone crowd take note.

I tried rizzing up a girl who I thought was autistic so I wrote to her in a very direct way where I could not be misinterpreted. Turns out she wasn't autistic but I got invited to her place after 2 hours of chatting.

First of all: I really enjoyed reading all of these stories so thanks to all the posters for sharing! ;) Secondly, I would like to ask for some advice about avoiding crazy/mentally unstable BBWs when dating. I want to preface this with a very short description of me and then go into detail what I'm looking for/trying to avoid. About me: - 23 yo male who never dated... :/ - Part German, half-polish and a small part Irish - Decent looking, 5ft 9, normal weight, far from athletic - Bachelor of Science in CompSci - Catholic Christian - Normal/healthy family background: - loving non-divorced parents - drama free - decent relationships between every part of the broader family - No traumatic stuff i.e. abuse or something like that - What I'm looking for (eventually!): - BBW gf who I could one day marry and have children with - Must haves (besides the physical stuff and some basics like hygiene or general gf stuff): - Decently smart - Does not need to be Einstein, but should not be mentally retarded/slow - Can hold a normal conversation - Mentally stable - I have a feeling that many of these girls got fat because of some major childhood trauma, so (ideally): - No child abuse/molestation victim - No self harm history - No suicidal tendencies - Not bipolar/depressed/ED/Cyclothymia/etc. - No gender identity struggles - Not controlling - Not aggressive, toxic, etc. - Self confidence - Should not hate her body and be confident at her weight - Not depressed about "being fat" 24/7 - No constant yoyo/crash-dieting - No immediate wish for WLS/ozempic/etc. - Should let me touch/fondle all of her fat (some girls are weird about this) - NO DRUGS: including smoking (weed, cigarettes, vaping, etc.) and excessive drinking => Only if she's willing to quit - Wifey material/good mother to future children - Goes well with mentally stable - On good terms with parents/family; only exception if her family is nuts - Same cultural background and upbringing - Ideally, she catholic or Christian; can maybe be an atheist if she's not a radical one - Good manners sense of style - Can fit in at a fancy event - Can dress cute/sexy and classy/chic - Not lazy 24/7; would not make a good partner or mother to potential children - Motivated/driven - has goals/ambitions in life - Not full of woke ideas - No leftist, hardcore feminist, communist - Ideally conservative liberal - No short hair or constantly changing hair color - Ideally no or very minimal tasteful tattoos - Ideally only ears pierced - No major plastic surgeries - No excessive lipfiller - No BBL etc. - Anyone got any tips on how to spot the mentally unstable ones? - Any warning signs? - Any questions to ask on a date? - Anything else to look out for? - Any stories maybe? Also any other dating advice: - Date tips, ideas etc.?

>>62844 Anyone got anything on this topic? I'll make it real short this time: How to avoid stupid/slow and/or crazy bbws in talking stage?

>>62918 >>62844 Stop being an autist.

>>62928 Thx Sherlock, would have never guess that this might help ;)

>>62928 He's right about this one bro. And I'm the OP earlier in the thread that said rizzing em with the 'tism works miracles lmao. For real bro, you just wrote out a 10 page alchemy formula for the most goofy concept of a girlfriend I ever read and then asked a group of random strangers how do you instantly just know a girl gonna be like that walking down the street. WHAT?! I mean this is ignoring the blatant retardation of wanting a girl who is a "motivated, smart, confident, and stable" who dresses sexy but also is pious modest prudish simple minded conservative woman who doesn't care about women rights or her degrading place in society. Apparently she just doesn't like to have fun either and just has no personality or interests or hobbies at all. But she's smart guys. Trust me. Oh, and she's never even had a bruise or a scrape before, this bitch is 100% baggage free. That's weapons grade autism and should be kept safe 100 meters underground in a concrete tomb where the radiation can never leak out into the environment. I mean bro the girl your describing, fucking start going to youth group or some shit and start telling them bitches you how much you love season 3 of Veggie Tales. That's basically your only play here.

>>62932 Genuine chatting does work to, I mean literally talking to people because they like talking about themselves, is another great thing, people I chat to I don't always have intention in dating but they enjoy the fact I'm there to listen to and often they reveal emotional things about themselves which deepens a bond

>>62844 As a 23 year old 175 cm skinnyfat German speaker I guess I'm the closest to you here appearance wise at least and I feel compiled to answer. Yeah that's quite the list and as I'm sure you understand it's not that realistic. It sounds like you need to work on yourself before you start making a huge list like that. Try befriending groups that include girls and keep it casual without worrying about finding someone that fits all those criterias and focus on having fun and making friends. If you're still a student that's the worlds easiest thing, there's always student organisations that want more people in their group. Sure you might not meet a new best friend or your future wife on the first day but it's a natural way to meet people outside your bubble. But yeah to answer your question, to find a mentally stable, intelligent girl that dresses classy check out law students lmao. But again, don't burn bridges by being autistic and rushing things.

I did the other night while at work. Gave her my number and she texted me that night, we spoke all night and the conversation was really good. Then she ghosted me. I text her two days later she responded once but didn't reply after. I text her again today after like 5 days of waiting but she didn't reply. Oh well. On to the next I guess. She had an amazing shape. Pear shaped huge ass, really bubbly personality.

>>62932 Ok, so I see I must address some controversy surrounding this list. First of all I'm not totally oblivious to the fact that almost nobody will meet all the stuff mentioned and that there is no way to tell all of this right away. So I'm in no way looking for a recipe that lets me walk up to a woman talk to her for 30sec and check off half of the list items... Regarding fun activities and interests I did not bother to mention this as it would just narrow down the potential candidates, and as long as it's not some real bad hobby/habit i.e. sleeping around I don't see any problems with the fact that we don't share all/many hobbies. And I felt like it would go without saying that I am looking for someone who has a life. Also everything on this list would also hold true for any romantic partner, so "skinny girls" are judged by the same standards, all tough I have found that with fat girls the mentally unstable part might be more of a factor? Hence the reason for the post. Idk if you call me a socially unaware autist, but let's just say someone is 400-500+lbs and deep down the haes/bopo rabbit hole...idk about you but for me this idc about health risks in the slightest/medicine is 100% fat phobic, constitutes a mental illness in and of itself. Now onto some brief clarifications about specific list contents: 1. I feel many of these things are mutually exclusive, i.e. a conservative Christian woman can't be: into witchcraft/astrology, communist/leftist, overly woke etc.? Some of these negative things just go well together i.e. if someone is fat, lazy and lives of social benefits they might also: be poorly educated/mentally slow, be mentally unstable, dress trashy, be unable to hold a deep meaningful conversation (I'm not talking about fake deep talk teenagers have!). Before anyone asks: Yes I know this is generalized heavily... 2. Feminism is ment more in the sense of radical feminism i.e. "all men are trash!" type of thinking. So I like to think I am not looking for a simple minded obedient housewife in the slightest? 3. Dressing classy/chic is just a bonus, and I'm not trying to dress for a 7 course dinner with some form of royalty/high society. I'm just trying to avoid someone who's idea of dressing up involves: sweatpants, crop top, pounds of orange-ish makeup, 1inch+ fake lashes. I feel this not to much of hard ask? 4. Baggage free is also an illusion which is was not trying to set as a pseudo standard for my future partner. I am just trying to steer away from some of the worse stuff. I've just heard to much stupid shit go down, hence why drama-free is the real keyword here! >>62947 Thanks for this first non confrontational post. Something like this is what I've been looking for I'm regards to answers. Just some simple internet style generalized advice, like avoid women who end every DM with xx, i.e. "How's your day? xx", bc they tend to be crazy was my original intent. Oh and one thing to ease y'all's minds: I'm not totally autistic IRL and know how to handle social situations and read conversational clues/body language. Also I'm not one to rush into things full autism mode...which is probably why I never have had any romantic stuff happen (probably had the chance to pursue a girl in highschool once, but I didn't care for her). Finally let me leave you with this: Maybe all of this is too much to ask for in a potential gf, but if some major red flags from the list become apparent, I'd rather stay single.

>>62844 >>insane overly detailed list This is exactly how I would expect an autistic german person to date lmfao

>>62976 Thanks! I'm glad to meet your expectations ;)