Did she say she was okay with you having a fat fetish? Sometimes they're not actually okay with it or just don't care. Have you guys tried it out together yet before coming up with a clear answer? If she's sensitive about her weight then she more than likely won't like being as big as she was again, especially more than that, but could be willing to go along with it because she knows you like it. Most women likes to please their men, even if they don't really care or dislike something. My girlfriend doesn't like her belly, but still shows it to me because she knows I like it. Try it out with her and see if she wants to partake in it. If she really hates it after that or goes on a thinking spiral, then don't try to force her into it.

>>71054 she genuinely didn’t care she just told me it’s okay to like what I like when I told her about it. I feel like she might not like it either but part of me wonders if I can try and get to her to view it from a different perspective if I really explain it deeply but then again I don’t want to be delusional. she used to hate her belly being touched a while ago prob cuz she was insecure but now she tells me she likes her belly touched which happened to start happening after I told her about the fetish.

This might help you (and a lot of other wannabe feeders). Take notes. A guy just posted it to another very popular site: I read a post with someone saying it's hard to date with this kink. I stood in my own way for a little, and it was. Now it's not. So I'm going to share a few things that worked for me, and some hot stories (a little further down)! You can boil all my advice down to be honest & sweet! Pt.1 Let's start at the start. You meet someone. Now, I'm absolutely not complaining if their party dress was loose, and their tight date dress shows the start of a belly. Or their dating app pictures are from their formerly skinny days! Regardless. Start slow, impress, woo — don't fetishise. If all you see is this kink, girls can tell, no-one wants that. So you treat girls wonderfully, ask thoughtful questions, truly listen, answer very honestly, don't rush to intimacy, make them feel safe above everything else! Then, when you mention your kink you like and trust each other! Pt.2 On the third date I tell the girl about my kink. I say, “I want to share something with you, that's a bit more personal, but I'd like to because I want to be completely myself. Then you know me more, and you can do whatever you like with this...” The way I frame it is, “I like a girl with an appetite! Someone who enjoys food. It's not something I think about all the time. But it's a puzzle piece that I want when I start feeling horny. Knowing that my girl is greedy.” I'm not asking for anything. I'm trying to be honest and work out compatibility! I've shared this ten times and 0 out of 10 times I've got a bad reaction. I think that's because if I share it we've been on three dates, and we like each other. If she doesn't enjoy food or she's obsessed with her skinny body — I'm a bad fit. We're not for each other. And that's fine! Pt.3 But more often than not the reactions from our little talk are the girl leans in. My old gf (i'm currently single, dm's open!) went from skinny to a chubby over 12 months. I'd take her to the gym, lift heavy weights, and then we'd have a big dinner and dessert 'we're working out, we've gotta eat good'. She started popping out of her little shorts. She loved her growing ass, it got huge, and she knew i loved the contrast of her thick tummy pushing up against my abs, and muscles. She visited her family abroad, had a fat girl vacation, sent me a picture of her tummy sitting over her beach bikini! And oh my when she came back it was amazing. She knew exactly what I liked. During sex, she would say 'I want you to f*** me, and feed me'. And I'd put my hands on her tummy and massager her two new rolls. She once told me not to say 'belly'. She preferred 'tummy'. That was a reminder to make sure she got everything she wanted, and not cross into fetish territory. Another girl I told gorged a huge burrito and fries just twenty minutes after. Then we had sex. Her stuffed belly on top of me bouncing on top of me. Another ate a HUGE breakfast the morning after I told her. I plated her up 3 hash browns, she looked at me dirtily and said i want at least six, and eat them all seductively, tight pj's. She was a sexy chef! Then we went back to my room, and I cuddled her and massaged her belly! She said, “honestly, when you told me I thought you were going to say something weird, I love food, I love eating, this is perfect”. Another told me she often has two desserts at the local pub (two for £5 deal). And her aunt asked her if she was pregnant recently. And giggled.” Sometimes they tease me for a slightly odd kink, that's okay too. You can tell when it comes from the right place, and if they eat heartily after even better! Pt.4 If everything else is working out you aim for love. If two people love each other, they'll do a lot more for each other, than two people dating transactionally. The “my wife got fat post wedding” trope is real. She's happy, safe, and in love. Pair that with a plentiful supply of food and someone lightly encouraging, and do the math. But to get to love, you need to deserve love. And if you're lucky enough to get there, the spoiling begins. Lots of dinners out, cuddles, asking them for their fav snacks, making it clear you like curves, and wouldn't be mad (would actually quite enjoy it) if they gained a little weight! If they like you and you're a team, all of this feels natural. You check in and say, 'look i don't want you to do anything for me, if you don't want to' and you mean it! Now, sometimes the conversation happens, and not much changes. That's okay too. I check in a few weeks later, and see what they think or if I can assist with any of their kinks! One final thought experiment: Imagine one of those girls I mentioned logged into my laptop and saw r/weightgaintalk, and I never told them. I think they'd feel a little weird. “Has he been fattening me up?!” “Does he only like me cause of my belly”! All advice is anecdotal. Perhaps, this just fits my personality. But it's what worked for me! I once dated another girl, a brazilian, for eight months, i never told her, and everything felt awful in comparison. TL;DR Make someone feel safe, tell them early (don't make it too deep), deserve love, give love, if you're not compatible, that's great, now you know, and if you are wonderful: enjoy her beautiful ass getting bigger! Good luck.

>>73080 It's posts like this that keep me coming back to this website. A good reminder it's not all unsocialized goblins who are on here

>>71052 I think you’re on the right track. Once she knows you are with her no matter what. She will (if she genuinely loves you and only you) will start gaining weight the way you like it.

UPDATE: The other day we were “doing stuff” and I reached down but before i could do anything she pulled down her pants and pulled her belly out from under her pants. Respectfully, she’s only a little overweight, but there’s still definitely a stomach there for sure. I asked her today if that was on purpose or not and she told me that it was and I was shocked. Seeing her play into the fat stuff like that for the first time was unreal and I wonder if things will grow from here. She’s been so understanding of this whole situation I genuinely got so lucky.