Long story short, coming from someone in his mid 40s and has been in the community since 1996ish. Yes its worth it. Be open, be caring be considerate. If this is something you are genuinely into then its not going to go away. It's worth the time to seek out and be with a partner that wants to do this with you. If she's into it then great. If she's open to it but undecided you might not want to say how you want on her hands and knees eating out of a trough until she's 600 pounds. Dipping your toes in is better than hitting her with the proverbial truck. My partner was not really into it, but enjoys the attention and care she gets from me. Went from 230 to 330-350 and has been there for about 12 years now at the upper range. I wanted her over 400 but there's always a compromise to be had.

>>71169 That’s true, this is a part of myself i’ve been trying to ignore ngl but it’s only growing more and more. Also, interesting how you mentioned your partner wasn’t into it but gained anyways cuz they liked the attention. Wonder if a similar thing will happen if I told my gf.

>>71170 Women often say they won't change or do things for a man, but once they're in love, they'll do almost anything given enough time, and if you don't give them enough attention, they'll suddenly be very apt to do anything to keep it going. This is just about BBWs either, plenty of women are like this.

>>71182 >>71182 That’s fair enough, pretty much my biggest concern and why I haven’t told her is because I don’t want her to feel like I don’t find her attractive currently. In my hand I’m imagining it the other way around, imagine if she was fat and i told her “It’d be really hot if you lost weight, but only if you’re okay with it.” I feel like that would make her feel like her body isn’t enough currently. Definitely overthinking this for sure but still.

>>71185 That's something you aren't going to avoid unfortunately if she's also an overthinker, which most women are. If that's your biggest concern then keep it simple. Don't outright say you want her big and only like big women. Introduce it as a small kink first, like say you like how curvy women are, or you really like bellies idk. Work your way towards it and she may comply. If she's the type who wants to be 100% honest and wants to be open, then you may get away with telling her, but don't say that it's like the only thing that turns you on.

>>71185 The whole "I don't want her to think I don't like her as she is" is totally valid. I went through the same thing. Yes my partner likes the attention, and she likes keeping me happy. She's also naturally a fatty and I bust my ass to cook and clean and treat her very well (totally worth it btw). There's a lot more to it than just gaining and being fat at the end of the day. I dont blame you for overthinking it. But don't beat yourself up over it. I think it really clicked for her when we were just in the bed one night cuddling, after I had opened up to her about what I liked and I was holding her belly. I said you do know I love you however you are - I'm just greedy and I want more of you. I want to spoil you and take care of you. All of which is totally true - and she knew that. I mean that's hard to refuse. Make the deal too good to resist. To be fair of she's a natural fatty to begin with and you take care of her and make sure she always has a snack accessible she's going to gain weight anyhow. Just appreciate what you've got. And if you don't get it, don't be afraid to move on. There's someone that you can have a great relationship with that is beautiful and will get fat out there.

I’ve fattened up a number of women. They tend to lean into it.

Update: Thanks for the replies, I ended up taking to her about it last night and things went surprisingly well. She explained that she didn’t think any of it was weird and it’s okay to like the things I like. She was happy I was able to open up to her about that stuff. I had also told her my opinion of fat and how if people are fat who tf cares so many fat people are in the world and if people have comments about it then okay yeah that person if fat so what? She actually completely agreed with me on that and said she fully agrees with me but she’s still insecure about being big cuz of society standards. I told her that’s definitely a challenging thing and i’m also working towards not caring what others think cuz in the end, it dosent really matter. She then told me that she’s gonna try her best to get over those fears even if it might be hard. Anyways sorry for yap fest idk if anyone really cares lmao but that’s the end result

>>71237 purposefully or accidentally?

>>71277 Congratulations. May it open positive situations for you.

>>71277 Excellent! Nice to see something positive on the chan for a change.

>>71237 How did you do it ? I've had similar problem which the author of this thread had but i just told my gf and she was really ok with it and even liked it because she doesn't want to limit herself in terms of food. She's been always bigger girl, 5' 10, 210lbs. Now i want to make my gf fat and i dont know how. I told her i want her 350lbs and she was okay with it but now i feel like she doesn't have as much appetite as i would like. How to increase her appetite without straight up throwing food in her mouth because i dont want that.

>>71277 >*ryan gosling chair rattles*

>>71532 Focus on the journey, not the destination. Make or buy foods that you know she likes, keep snacks/treats around, and maybe be willing to play butler a bit. If you aren't doing stuffings yet, you could try gently bringing in "cheat days" here and there, but also be aware that some girls are "grazers" rather than stuffers. You've already cleared the big hurdle of bringing up the topic. Make her feel comfortable and appreciated, and everything else will fall into place.