I don't see the dilemma here?? You have a personal preference for your girl to be bigger and she *knows* you like people larger, have you asked prior about her gaining just in moderate amounts so that both of you are satisfied or does the fear come from asking the question itself? Honestly, if you're too scared to ask then drop hints and hope she grows accustomed to that type of affection. Don't need to do any shit like dump her over a fetish if she's the one for you or fucking fatten her up like its a poor porn story, just let her know how you feel truly and insist that you love her anyways.

>>80611 Ok in this case I have a serious question, as you‘re from Italy and I know that overweight and obesity has a very negative image there (my fathers family are all fatphobic): are you yourself afraid telling her you want her to gain weight because you are afraid she might leave you or are you afraid that your family or her family will think very negative about this and think you have mental issues?

Obviously I only know you from a few words but you talk a lot about how much she loves you but very little about how much you love her. She's cool with your preference because she doesn't want to lose you, but at some point she'll get jealous — rightfully. You have to look into your heart and figure out how much you really love her, and whether you're gonna be able to deal with her size in the long run. You say her love for you is rare, which is true, but being loved is very powerful and it inspires loyalty, which is not the same as love. If you want something different and you're staying with her because you don't want to break her heart then you have to let her go. Rip the band-aid off and deal with the fall-out. You'll break her heart anyway, eventually, getting wrapped up in fat porn and distancing yourself from her, or cheating. Don't waste 4, 8, 12 years of her life (and yours) if she's not what you need.