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Mourning the weight loss after 30 years Anonymous 03/27/2026 (Fri) 04:28:18 Id:31ed93 No. 82225
Any good resources for coming to terms with your partners weight loss. She's down like 150 at this point. I avoided facing the change as it happened. I knew I'd sabatoge it. Her health needed the change. Now I'm queasy after our first intimacy in a long time. Even thinner than I realized. It's like she killed my dog. Not fair, but the grief isn't stopping either. Absolutely sucks to have this fetish. I love the person and desperately miss the fat.
>>82225 I second that request. You sound like you are living my life - similar time in relationship; facing same issues. How big was your partner before she started losing? and how long did it take? Mine was 385 and is down 90, and it isn't stopping. I only found that out, though, when she wanted to have a talk because she wanted me to celebrate her "achievement". (I never knew her highest weight before that - I had guessed 375 and hoped it was maybe a bit higher, but I never asked and she never told til then, because I knew if I ever asked, it would lead to discussions about her being too fat and wanting to lose, so I let sleeping dogs lie, even though I badly wanted to know.) I am at the point now that I am not interested in sex with her, though if she wanted it, I wouldn't say no, even though I am not interested in it. (I figure I owe her that much after her having plenty of sex with me when she was not really interested.) It would be a change to have her putting in th effort to turn me on! Lol. That said, she has about zero libido, but she is taking hormones (not related to the GLP), so maybe that will come back at some point. We haven't had that discussion yet; it's only been a couple weeks since we had the "discussion" (though she's been losing for 10 months), but I figure at some point she is going to ask why I am no longer so handsy with her or asking for "sexy time". Not cause she misses it, but because it would be a pretext for her to raise the topic of her weight loss. You are right about the change in your relationship. Women just don't understand how wrapped up our attraction to them is in physical attraction. It's not the only thing, and it going away is part of life as we get older (both in terms of a man's desire going down and a woman's attractiveness plummet as they get into their sixties and seventies). I just figured I had a good 10 more years of a hot wife left (before the age part kicked in, as well as health issues necessitating weight loss), and that the loss would be less drastic (both in terms of quantity and how fast). I hope we can find some good resources, and in the meantime, try the "Need Advice" thread. There is a lot of discussion there. And I'm happy to commiserate with you.
>>82256 Mine pushed it until multiple doctors raised alarms. She knew how thrilled I was. The aftermath health problems remain, even around two hundred now. Her body will never be the same. Loose everything. A daily reminder of what she traded for me. Permanent and always visible. Any new weight loss victory highlights a prior sacrifice for my pleasure. Leaning into parts of the fetish that remain helps. Really wish I'd enjoyed her body more on the way down. Feels like it happened overnight instead. Don't miss out at 295. I think she took it much further much faster because I checked out.
>>82225 >>82256 This? Is kind of why we have no-fault divorce.
>>82268 >>82256 >>82225 Totally can relate my wife thinks she’s hot shit since she’s lost all this weight with wls. She’s convinced it was holding her back and at work and maybe it was but she’s working way too many hours now. It’s not the woman I married and now we’re always fighting about how much fried food the kids eat and how fat everyone in the family is but her and how fat “Americans in general” are. We were happy fat together I swear.
Dude had 30 years to enjoy a fatty. Meanwhile most fat girls today don't even last a decade before going losing the weight. Talking about rubbing it in.
Since the mod is a fucking faggot that deletes comments in gen. You don’t love each other. No loving person throws away a 30 year marriage over weight loss and acts like an autistic child who had his train set taken away.
This is why polyamory is cool
>>82304 Story is fake anyways. No one who's been married for 30 years while also lurking here has had a healthy relationship to begin it
>>82304 Nothing was deleted. Why you schizo
>>82318 Or open relationship. I think it can be healthy to find sexual pleasure outside the marriage if you cannot find it at home. Compartmentalization works for me, and I would be ok with my wife having a bit on the side if that was what floated her boat (this is not a one thing for me but not for thee kind of thing). However, even raising that subject would raise the ire of my wife and probably end the relationship.

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