/gen/ - So, like so many other people with this kink, ive found it incredibly difficult to find people local with me to engage with. I know theres feabie and whatnot but even that is so niche, especially for where i am which is pretty far away from any major city.

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05/05/2026 (Tue) 23:52:48 Id:34b606 No. 85146

So, like so many other people with this kink, ive found it incredibly difficult to find people local with me to engage with. I know theres feabie and whatnot but even that is so niche, especially for where i am which is pretty far away from any major city. Ive tried before and have had one or 2 different "feedist" outings that never went past a first meetup. Which is fine, im not resentful in any sort of way, its always been mutual. All that said, this leaves me desperate to meet people to engage with, which leads me to doing online feedings. I honestly enjoy it from time to time, usually its a one or two off situation and i get content and conversation in return etc, but im never really expecting much else. The women im dming are typically ones that post content and have hundreds of men in their dms just like me. I get that. However recently on one of these spurs, i messaged a feedee who posts on tumblr offering food yadda yadda. We hit it off EXTREMELY well. Like i genuinely feel more in tune with this women than i ever have with anybody else in my life. The first 4 days it felt like we sincerely couldn't get enough of eachother and we would just talk constantly all day and stay up all night calling and talking to eachother about literally anything but feedism. But on the same hand, we are somehow even MORE in tune intimately? She just scratched an itch emotionally and sexually for me that i have never experienced in my life. Weve been talking for like 2 and a half weeks now, with me feeding her pretty consistently within that. But she hasnt posted on tumblr since we started talking and even expressed to me that if we were to start a more longterm feeder/feedee relationship that she would happily delete her tumblr because she gets more than enough fullfilment with this kink just engaging with me. Shes smart and caring and i get i miss you texts and we watch movies together and i dont know. What im getting at with all this is that ive really never considered an online relationship because i feel like this kink is 100% best experienced in person. But this person is kind of one of a kind to me. We are thousands of miles apart and even typing this out hopefully sounds kinda dumb. I just dont know what to do here I humbly ask for advice for all you out there. Whether you have gone through this yourself, or you just want to call me a moron for wasting my money which i prob am. Please share your experiences if any

Online feedism relationships (e-dating) Idiot chud

05/05/2026 (Tue) 23:54:50 Id:34b606 No. 85147

Okay ive never made a thread before i totally did it wrong like an idiot

05/05/2026 (Tue) 23:58:20 Id:7120f9 No. 85148

How far away does she live from you? I drove 3,000 miles to relocate to a 600lb feedee I met on feabie who I am still with. This shit is very, very obscure. If you want a piece of that shit, you probably gotta move. Especially with the type of place you're currently living

Idiot chud

05/06/2026 (Wed) 00:40:38 Id:34b606 No. 85151

>>85148 Woah man. I commend you for that tenfold. I dont wanna give away exact locations for obvious reasons but she is over 600 miles away. So i was exaggerating a bit with "thousands" but this is still a considerable distance for me. If we continue going as well as we are id 100% visit her sometime but the concept of moving and changing my entire life path to be with her is still a bit beyond me ofc. Shes only in there 260 range as of now (5'0) but she seems really really into blowing past the 400s as soon as possible. How long were you talking to your feabie person before you felt committed enough to make a move that big?

Anonymous

05/06/2026 (Wed) 04:52:10 Id:271e03 No. 85161

If you want honest advice I think I have a couple things to opine. Take it with a grain of salt, from a guy whos in a happy non-feeder/feedee in-person relationship for what its worth: - Its awesome that you found that and I would deeply encourage you to continue it for as long as possible youve really struck gold brother - You should meet up with her ASAP. 600 miles is a lot but thats still a days drive, albeit a full days drive. Well worth it and neccesary imo to get a feel for each other in person. 99% chance you get on well and its a worthwhile experience and on the small chance you dont for some reason better to know sooner rather than later. Again, I stress this is a very small chance. If you get on well online for such extended periods that will almost certainly translate to irl, but no matter the outcome its worth it to take the first oppurtinitu and Id encourage you to start talking about it soon if youre both in this phase of long term thinking - Purely online relationships in the long term are unsustainable. Youre in a honeymoon phase rn and thats ok and good, but I would maybe plan for somehow you two to meet in the middle in some way to actually live together or at least mear each other at some point. This doesnt need to be now, you can wait for major openings/oppurtunities (graduation, one of you finishes a job, etc), but I would be thinking about it at some point in 1-2 years. Best of luck and congrats on your gf!

Anonymous

05/06/2026 (Wed) 06:13:59 Id:76c095 No. 85162

>>85146 Kind of like the anon above me said, you are in the honeymoon phase right now where it feels like nothing in the world could ever go wrong again. However, I'm advising that you do the opposite of what he said and just continue online for the time being. There will eventually come a point where the rose tint to one or both of your glasses will fade and reality of a mundane, committed relationship will set in. How that conversation goes will determine what happens next. If either you or her feels like the intensity of the connection you're feeling now isn't as strong or sustainable long-term, it's good that you had your time together, but no truly significant impact to either of your lives took place. If, on the other hand, you do feel ready to take the next step, THAT'S when you should make plans to meet up. Either way, you should let this thing breathe for a little bit before you start making hasty, passion-driven decisions that require a significant resource and time commitment before you really know what you even are to each other. Basically, just think with your head and not your dick or your heart while you're caught up in this whirlwind romance, because that might be all that it ends up being. That's probably not what you want to hear and I'm sorry if I put a damper on things. Just don't drag your feet in the attempt to follow this advice, because then that just makes it look like you're scared of commitment. If you do decide to meet up, I agree that you should meet somewhere in the middle, that way you can see what the reality of living with this person actually looks like without the dynamic of being at her house and feeling the social pressure to accept certain behaviors because it's her living space and you're just a visitor. Of course a few days/week long trip with her isn't going to get you fully acquainted with all her idiosyncrasies, but it should give you a pretty good idea of what you'd be in for if you got more serious.

Anonymous

05/06/2026 (Wed) 06:23:32 Id:ba4c22 No. 85163

>>85162 Disagreeing here. Why would you want to miss out on spending time in person during the honeymoon phase? I don’t see the advantage. And you always learn SO much more about a person spending time with them, seeing their life setup, meeting friends. I’d say time together in person is a win-win. Apologies about gas prices/jet fuel prices right now.

Anonymous

05/06/2026 (Wed) 06:55:49 Id:76c095 No. 85167

>>85163 The advantage is that you already know you're not going to get tired of each other after spending a couple hours together IRL. If you're committed to each other and have mutually agreed to what sort of relationship you're trying to pursue, there's no blindside if you meet up and it doesn't turn out how you imagined. Rushing to meet up with each other right now is, like I said, just thinking with your dick. If he scrambles to meet up right this instant and it turns out that outside the screen she just SUCKS to be around, then it just turns into an extremely awkward few days at best and a massive waste of money at worst. Waiting to come back down to Earth before making that decision lets him figure out if this is the start of a potential lifelong partnership or just the longest sexting session he's ever had. Going into a meetup without that understanding could either have a massive payoff or just end up being the most expensive and labor-intensive prostitute ever, as harsh as that sounds. Personally, I wouldn't want to leave that to chance since I am risk-averse and plan my shit out thoroughly and with as much information as I can gather beforehand. Like I said, he'd still end up with the experience of getting to know her and how she lives her daily life, it's just that if he waits, he can either avoid the whole thing if it turns out they're not as compatible as it seems right now when everything's coming up roses, or he can go into said experience with an actual understanding of what he's trying to accomplish in going. If it's to find a wife, he knows what to look for whereas if he just goes to have a cheeky fuck and see what happens, he might be setting himself up for the biggest disappointment of his life. Even if he does end up learning that it's not meant to be, at least if he waits, he can make that decision like a mature adult rather than a horny teenager just figuring out that the first girl to look his way might not be the one after getting the worst blowjob ever. Again, crass, I know, but that's what he could be in for in a manner of speaking, hell, maybe even literally for all he knows.