/gen/ - General Discussion

You gotta figure out what changed, then puzzle or how to defuse the impact on her life. Something external is causing her to feel bad. You don't turn on a dime from gaining 80 pounds to shooting up a glp1. She's unrealistic about her dating market at this point. Someone without this preference sees 200 pounds as big. She's gonna look melted at that size. There's really no going back. I wouldn't say that obviously, but it's the reality.

>>93273 This is so true. With my girl moving in with her and making sure she knows how much I like her along with whatever i can do to shield her from the impact of our families making her feel worthless over her weight. Whenever its just us for a while she gets more ok with her body and can think about what she actually wants(shes only like 260-270 and people are terrible. this isnt as manipulative as it sounds) Also right about the dating market thing. IRL any girl over 200 is a 4/10 max to any normie. Hell my own family has told me my gf is a 2 and that its purely because of her weight because she "still has a cute face" and again we're talking like 260 with good distribution

Fat girls will always overestimate their chances in the market, particularly because there will always be gymbros who see a diamond waiting to be polished and want to "fix" her. Otherwise they're just like us and girls will tie themselves into knots explaining how it's different because they can bench press almost their full weight.

Bruh, I feel you. My wife started with Mounjaro which I fully support. My wife was about 350lb too and carrying that shit all day is hard work. Mounjaro is expensive af here in Australia so financially I support, but our sex has dried up (so she thinks I don't which is probably partly true). Anyway, my wife said to me that I "put 30kg on her". Like yeah I like shit food but I'm not a feeder. Nice in videos, too much work IRL and to me there is more to life than making someone fatter and working around the difficulties that come with that (no hate to the IRL feeders, god speed). I would say the real reason for the wife's gain is emotional eating. Eating when she's upset or sad or had a fight. I would say your girl needs to deal with her emotional eating if she truly wants to lose weight. Maybe up the dose on the GLP1. My wife gets more food noise (her words) as it starts to lose effectiveness and needs to be increased. I would say don't focus on your girls body. I'm sure you find it sexy, but she probably doesn't. She's probably feeling insecure about herself and that you are only with her because she's fat (I know my wife did and probably still does). It might be a conversation to have that you don't feel this way and you need to reassure her that there are other things you love about her. Maybe she's funny or smart or makes you happy idk. Maybe don't nut on her back rolls for a bit. You should stick by your girl if you love her. You will have rough patches in any relationship. Definitely have a conversation with her about how she's feeling and that you love her for not her body. If you keep showing her that I think she'll feel better. Sorry for the ramble. Just got home and have had a few beers.

maybe only semi related, but i found the hostile and aggressive reaction (too) many BBWs gave me once I told them about preferring fat women to skinny ones so thoroughly off-putting that it kinda lowered their appeal to me. many fat women are incredibly neurotic which makes them unpleasant to deal with. normal sized women tend to be more relaxed and easy-going, they're just more pleasant to be around in general. the hard truth. self proclaimed feminists and "body posivity activists" will call me a right winger now and an incel. this is their level of "discourse", getting personal. fine. but whatever they say will not discredit the fact that BBWs tend to be so insecure it can make them totally unattractive. picture only semi related unfortunately. it could be this simple and beautiful but it ain't.

>>93266 Yeah this just seems like something else is going on to make her mad at you (not necessarily your fault) and this is how she is expressing that. It could be just that the "honeymoon phase has worn off or it could be something deeper. Either way you could try to figure out what's wrongf and work through it but tbh a break up might be in order. Making fun of someone's fetish like that is genuinely abusive behavior and a huge red flag. And if it is just deflecting from something else she should be able to communicate that instead of lashing out.

This is just typical "women, eh? ☕" Thinking "It's unfair that only skinny girls are considered attractive, I want someone who loves me for who I am" "Great, I love big girls!" "DON'T FETISHISE ME!" What they really want is for a normal hot guy to just inexplicably date someone they find unattractive I guess

Part of dating a fat girl is running defense against the bullshit society throws at them. It is a pain in the ass, but still easier for you than them. A small taste of the price they pay carrying the weight. Get good at it and the resentment diminished. Us vs. the world. Simple example - offer to go with for the doctor. Another person simply in the room, changes the medical experience.

>>93292 That or a guy that's truly indifferent about weight. Of course either possibility is vanishingly unlikely. They pretty much want to date someone who'll enable them to LARP as a straight sized woman in a fat woman's body, and wanting to have "fat sex" totally ruins that for them. And of course it's irrational, but these are people who hate their bodies and yet are unable to change them, full of self-loathing. Nobody they'd want to date is likely to date them as those men practically don't exist, but they don't want to be alone either. This is in large part what's happening with fat women "not wanting to be fetishised". We should not be dating them. Their grudging-at-best acceptance of our desires is quite sad/pathetic and, after the novelty of experiencing validation/being found sexually attractive wears off, leads to resentment on their part, the sex usually sucks anyway for obvious reasons, and they're apt to leave if they lose weight because they were always settling. It's all incredibly depressing. We should stick to women who are, at least, at peace with their bodies and having them found attractive. Though they do of course tend to have significantly higher standards than lonely, self-hating women. > I am not going to be with someone who makes me feel bad about being attracted to her I expect that she always found your attraction to her basically disgusting. That's her hangup, not yours. I've been in similar positions (briefly, 'cause fuck that - bye!) and it really does feel gross and is hurtful. Sorry, OP. It's so, so much better on the other side though, you're gonna love it.

>>93292 They want to score a Chad that doesn’t usually date fat chicks but her face and style captivates him. It’s stupid and they hate themselves, move on to confident midsized women with an ass.

OP here, >>93282 >>93273 >>93290 I do love her and she says she loves me too. I think something is going mentally, and she just does not like herself right now and is lashing out, and this switch up is part of a larger problem. I want to help her through it, this is someone I thought i'd be marrying and that makes it both harder to walk away and continue to be an emotional punching bag. >>93283 > the hostile and aggressive reaction (too) many BBWs gave me once I told them about preferring fat women to skinny ones so thoroughly off-putting that it kinda lowered their appeal to me. yeah man it's not my first rodeo, fat and crazy kind of goes hand in hand there's no way around it. I have never had such a big switch up though where she started to smother me with her belly and ask to sit on me to suddenly acting like i'm some gross fetishist because I appreciate her. >>93296 >And of course it's irrational, but these are people who hate their bodies and yet are unable to change them, full of self-loathing. Nobody they'd want to date is likely to date them as those men practically don't exist, but they don't want to be alone either. This is in large part what's happening with fat women "not wanting to be fetishised". I asked if any of those plus size romance books she has if they ever have stuff like belly grabbing and she said 'ew no that's fetishy'. Like yeah I don't expect fat woman to be ok with being called hogs and being force fed but why is actually liking their bodies viewed so negatively? >>93292 >>93301 The thing is too, she has told me before that she's incredibly lucky to have "found someone like me who just happens to like fat chicks" because I tick so many boxes in her mind (I'm tall, I am in somewhat good shape, I make well into the 6 figures). She told me previously that she liked going out with me because she felt beautiful and not defined by her weight because she was with someone conventionally attractive. Maybe that feeling was short lived when deep down you're just unhappy, idk.

Happened in my last serious relationship. Lesbian, so body standards arent really the same as mens expectations, and I thought it would go over a little better when I revealed I was into it. I should mention that im mostly just a feedee myself, but definitely like bigger babes too. But they despised it. They were proudly fat and showed it off in a "body positive but this isnt why im hot" way, claimed feedism was against the fat liberation cause, and hated having that seen as a sexy aspect. Belly and side rolls were strict "no touch" zones, and if someone even mentioned the word "feedism" in the same room as them, they'd get totally freaked out. But we were compatible with all other kinks, so it was a compromise. Also severe restrictive/purging ED where the feeling of being full was extremely triggering, and often starved themselves. For me personally, feedism has helped heal my EDs, so it was honestly pretty painful seeing how it made theirs worse, and what helped me would hurt them, and vice versa. I felt bad even eating in front of them, let alone stuffing. Just made things rough. The relationship ended for completely unrelated reasons (mostly me having to move for school and them wanting to transition), but this defonitely put a strain on things. Honestly, idk if I can date someone again thats not at least open to feedism, kind of one of my relationship criteria now. If you have this kink, theres no getting away from it, and if you try to bury it or let it just marinate in the back of your head, you'll get all kinds of pent up desires thatll just torture you. And if its that important a part of your sex life, you're gonna have troible without it. But it only works out if both parties are into or at least open to it. Ironically, they looked a LOT like Reiina at her biggest, with the same hairdo and similar tats, piercings, and fashion sense. Thats not why I went for them, just a bizarre coincidence.

>>93304 > The thing is too, she has told me before that she's incredibly lucky to have "found someone like me who just happens to like fat chicks" because I tick so many boxes in her mind (I'm tall, I am in somewhat good shape, I make well into the 6 figures). She told me previously that she liked going out with me because she felt beautiful and not defined by her weight because she was with someone conventionally attractive. Maybe that feeling was short lived when deep down you're just unhappy, idk. Ohh you gave her the ick. Might not be a you problem, could be a her problem. But since you didn’t talk about laying pipe or being social so it’s probably a you thing.

>>93304 > fat and crazy kind of goes hand in hand there's no way around i Hardest cope ever. Best thing about liking fat chicks is not having to date the bottom of the bucket. Losers who can only score crazy hoes say that skinny n fat Asian whatnot.

>>93304 Have you just asked her why she seems so different? Bring up the fun you two had in the past with appreciating her size and ask why she suddenly doesn't like it anymore.

>>93283 The entire body positivity movement in relation to fat women basically exists to make them pretend to feel pretty and valued since they don't fall into a conventional beauty standard. So even though many will talk about how much they like being fat or are into body positivity, it is all a cope at the end of the day for most of them because they are not happy with themselves that they don't meet that standard. So I think when a man who is into larger women and genuinely finds someone with a BBW or beyond body type physically attractive, it reminds them that they are not happy with who they are and what body they have. This also extends to a lot of models who only model because they can use it as a source of income and don't actually like being fat and harbor resentment toward her fans. Which is just ultimately frustrating because the logical thing would be to just look for men who prefer that body type or lose the weight. A woman who is a BBW or SSBBW and is comfortable with her body, but isn't one of these coping activists is the sweet spot. But they are so fucking hard to find.

>>93314 So true that your kinks are kind of a prerequisite for any relationship. Being pent up or lying about what makes you happy never helps and im done with restrictive relationships. Im a straight guy but im insanely lucky with my current big ass gf. When I told her I was into this stuff (explained it very mildly) she decided on her own to quit working out and dieting and even lets me feed her in bed sometimes. We dont do anything to directly make her gain weight but even just having someone understanding enough to let you act things out is a big win. On another note, she told me recently she doesnt care about her weight anymore because she's only worried about looking hot for me

>>93292 You hit the nail on the head. I don't think that this applies only to fat women, but they want you to think that they are beautiful but also not care that they are not beautiful and love them "just for themselves". Basically, they want men to be women and ignore that in our genes, we are predisposed to be attracted to women we find our version of beautiful. I get that for women, "the person" may be most important and how visually attractive they are may not be important, but for dudes, finding someone sexually attractive is a big part of who we fall in love with. Obviously not the only thing (or hopefully not, at least!), but it is a major factor. So don't expect us not to care about it or minimize its importance.

>>93304 > why is actually liking their bodies viewed so negatively? *gestures broadly at society* Gee I wonder It triggers their internalised fatphobia, self-hatred. > fat and crazy kind of goes hand in hand there's no way around it Maybe, kind of, but I'm still not going to date crazy women for the sake of a good cum. Instead I tend to date women who are just fat instead of very fat. This has many advantages, and results in equally (if not better, as they're more likely to be physically fit enough to be good at sex) good cums. If I'm not coombrained enough to drastically alter, restrict and generally fuck up my life by staying in dysfunctional relationships for the sake of my paraphilia, how far gone are y'all jeez. I feel for you if the intensity of your desires pushes you into dating people you don't, really, want to date, and accepting lifestyles you wouldn't choose. > Like yeah I don't expect fat woman to be ok with being called hogs and being force fed Me neither, but quite a few are (maaany people, including women, are into submission, degradation etc.) and it's a real treat. A bit counter-intuitively though, it seems that it's people who feel good about their bodies who tend to be happy playing with that sort of thing. I imagine because they can understand it's not real and don't have horrible self-hatred stuff it triggers.

>>93329 Yeah my current gf isnt into it herself either but shes not really opposed and certainly wouldnt mind me getting a little thicker. I made sure to reveal it when we had a kink talk pretty early on in dating, so that we'd know off the bat if it was a dealbreaker for her. She's even curious about watching me stuff myself and has brought me big boxes of donuts before, or flirtingly talked me into ordering more at a drive thru. She's big herself, but mostly muscle with a layer of squishyness over it (and I love it), and totally a gym rat. But if she wasnt at least open to the idea, it would've been a dealbreaker. And shes thankfully very experienced in kink life, which is a huge plus here (I feel like vanilla girls hearing about feedism for the first time get waaaaay more squicked out and see it as toxic or scary, whereas someone experienced in kink might understand a bit better). >>93317 Having seen this from the girl side of things, both are true. Fat girls get put through the ringer by society if they grow up fat and are often traumatized and fucked up from it, skinny girls who gain weight lose their status and friends over it, and a lot of fat girls got fat because of an ED or drinking problem that was already going on. So yeah, fat girls are statistically a lot more likely to have a few screws loose.

>>93375 Mental health issues also lead to weight gain. Both as a coping mechanism and as a side effect of medication. It comes with the territory.

>>93376 Autism central. Skinny women are crazy because more simps will tolerate their crazy and indulge them in their delusions. There are 5x more girlfriend quality fat women, if you’re dating crazy fat women it’s because you’re not a quality pick brother.

Dude, she hates you bad. She's starting to resent *you*, not your fetish. If she's saying that she would date someone that likes normal sized girls, she's thinking about leaving you. Sit down with her and break up

>>93317 For real though. My 550lb lady friend is a feedee and has a master's degree, a real grown up job, a social media presence with tens of thousands of followers, and owns her own business on top of that. She messaged me on feabie. We have a great sex life. She's very much an outlier though. She doesn't even have a fucked up family. Most normal people I've ever met. She just likes eating and being fat. That being said, I mean... *sometimes*, every so often, she's a little fucking bat shit crazy. But it's only for like an hour though, and she always apologies afterwards. I'm not getting more lucky than that with this kink. I'll take it.

My wife slowly gained from 170ish when we met up to 240 over 25 years. Her figure was absolute perfection. I never pushed gaining on her, but we both liked to cook and go to out to eat. Unfortunately as we are both about 50 now her doc told her she was pre-diabetic and she went on weight loss drugs. She's around 150 now and as much as I try it's really hard to be physically attracted to her. I can't tell you how much this sucks. It's her choice and I'm a jerk to be upset about it. But It really is terrible. Aside from the weight loss, she just doesn't eat meals or want to go out. She has lost all drive to do anything enjoyable and is just a ball of anxeity that worries about everything in life that can go wrong. Aging sucks. Change sucks. Just enjoy every minute of time with your fat woman while you can.

My gf of the time found the browser history and told me she saw a reiina vid and was disgusted, and then went on to make fun of her tatoos as well. Incredibly embarrassing and cringe. Still kinda feel bad she was very self conscious and was always rail thin, and thought i didn’t find her attractive. Gave in a few times pushing her stomach during sex, but it was very short lived after that. Prime reiina gain train was better tbo tho

>>93403 >then went on to make fun of her tatoos as well Based

I met my girlfriend several years ago. After a week of dating, I told her about my preferences. She was shocked and wanted me to explain. Then she said that she would never willingly participate and would not gain weight for me, as she would be uncomfortable in her body. I told her that I totally understand; I don't want to force it on her, and she doesn't need to gain. The rest of the day was awkward, but the following weeks were fine. We understood each other in many other things, and I felt good with her, so I decided to put my preference aside for the relationship. And we nver really talked about it from then on. As years went by, she gained roughly 20-ish kilos. She started to be even more irresistible as it went to her butt and thighs, and she got a starter belly, which I couldn't get enough of at the start. But all that was due to stress, life stuff, and family genetics, I would say. She is really sad about the whole thing and dislikes her appearance. She denies buying clothes for herself, as she will buy more when she loses weight. But eventually, she just buys new, bigger clothes. I got to see her not fit into old clothes, people commenting on her weight, and her stuffing herself. All amazing things on paper, but when she despises those things, it is hard for me to enjoy or get excited, not complaining just saying. I got to see her weight change, and while I found her increasingly attractive, she was becoming increasingly uncomfortable with her appearance. I never intended for her to gain weight, and I never encouraged it. I didn't want to force my preferences on her, and I was happy to put my kink aside for the relationship. She complains about her weight, as is the stereotype, and I comfort her, yet she fires back, "What would you know? You must like this, finally your type, right?" and so on. I always assure her that I never intended for her to gain; I am not doing it in secret or on purpose in any way shape or form. In the meantime, I assured her that I like her as is and would like to help her get the body she wants. So I was asking her to join me for exercise, run, or to have something healthy. She then declines, has an excuse ready, or suggests something fatty instead. She also bakes a lot and eats it before I can even get to it. Our sex life is and was always kinda slow, mostly because she didn't feel ready and is socially awkward about it due to her upbringing. So we started having sex a bit later in our relationship. But I find myself not being attracted to her body even when at her fattest, which wasn't much, just 88 kilos. I don't mind, I don't blame her, and I don't get in her face about any of her gluttonous habits. Yet it hurts me every time she feels uncomfortable in her body or hates her weight; she either tells me that it is my fault that I fattened her up, that I am liking her fat body, or that I am sabotaging her, etc. I tell her that I can help, that I am here for her and will help her to lose the weight she doesn't want to have. She replies that I would surely sabotage her or that she doesn't want to exercise or anything like that. I am confused about one thing, and ironically it comes to me as funny. I confess my fat fetish, she dosnt want to participate so I cross it of as a no go and go on, she then gains weight herself, which I am blamed for, but in the end even at her biggest I dont enjoy it on her, other girls that I notice some gain I find it attractive, this whole online thing like forums/images/fanart etc excites me as well but in real life I dont find her attractive yet I am the one at fault according to her. Does it make sense that her not liking to gain would discourage me from liking it on her? I am already considering therapy, as I don't want to ruin the relationship and her life.

PS sorry for the long rant

>>93412 You are not the problem here. She's both rejected and shamed your sexuality. And continues to do so, while blaming you for the outcome of her food and exercise decisions. That's straight bullshit.

>>93414 This, basically the whole thread. Guys, the most you can hope for from someone who is normal about being fat is they're either unbothered or recognize it's an issue but don't do anything about it. The second they start blaming you is when you become a scapegoat for their growing (heh) insecurities. They need therapy or a good look in the mirror.

>>93403 I showed one of those to my ex who looked like Reiina, thought they'd at least get a kick out of it or think it was funny given the circumstances. They did NOT and kinda lost their shit over it. They even wore all the same clothing brands and did their hair and makeup the same way. Theyve changed up their look a LOT in the years since and I cant help but wonder if that had a hand in setting it off 😬 >>93412 You're doing the best you can honestly, she sounds like she's going through a lot just in general. You've made it openly clear that despite your kinks you want her to have a body shes comfortable in and will help her with whatever she needs, and the ball is totally in her court now. Her stress regarding attraction to her new form is very likely an offshoot of the stress that's been causing the weight gain in the first place. Her being bigger probably doesnt excite you because shes not enjoying it and is uncomfortable in her body because of it, and that's totally reasonable. Also you made your kink clear early on, made it clear you could put it aside, and didnt push it on her or encourage it on her, so you're not being a creep here. She just needs to work her shit out honestly. But it's hard either way.

>>93412 I feel you there on the guilt. I used to love worshipping her fat body before both due to my own fetish and that I thought it was making her more confident,but now I just feel guilty even touching her. I also used to love cooking for her but now I just feel like it's going to make her resent me >>93415 I think both in his and my GFs case it's really easy to blame external factors on something you're unhappy with especially when someone likes your biggest insecurity, it makes you an easy target, and also plays into their self immolation. >>93383 Over the weekend I told her that this situation is making me unhappy. She gave me a lot of excuses but so far has been a lot nicer, but I don't know. I'm giving it until the end of the month and if she starts slipping back to being mean and resentful again I'm going to break up.

>>232022 Thank you for your understanding words. I honestly feel a bit better hearing someone else's perspective. I feel the same that the decision is in her hands, and when getting to know my girlfriend better, I understand why she doesn’t want to gain and is not into it. I don’t think she will magically start to like it. So I think the ball is also in my court if I really want to be in such a relationship, and I am not talking about the kink but about being with someone who makes me the scapegoat for all misfortune in their life. She has blamed her weight, her job, and other life aspects on me even though I am trying to be supportive and motivating; of course, it doesn’t mean I am doing the best job, but I am certainly not trying to go against her. I also thought about if we were to have children; she gained weight during the pregnancy, which is basically guaranteed with her genetics and with what she told me about her mom. Then I am scared to even think about her anger with herself and it being directed towards me, and I am not talking about hormones or general sadness or depression that comes with pregnancy; of course, I would support her and be there for that. If you understand what I mean.

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I am looking into some therapists for help to sort out my emotions, which I am honestly getting mixed up a bit lately, and I don’t want to torment her, make her unhappy, or worse. And I also want to be in a happy relationship, which I would not call ours all the time, which I understand is kinda normal also.

>>93443 >being with someone who makes me the scapegoat for all misfortune in their life >has blamed her weight, her job, and other life aspects on me even though I am trying to be supportive >I am scared to even think about her anger anon. this woman is a bad person. she is incapable of taking responsibility for her problems in life and blames her shortcomings and insecurities on you instead of seeking therapy. she's so rude and unpleasant that even thinking of her anger scares you. your own words. anon. you sound like a good person. you deserve a good, loving, gentle, caring woman in your life. not this harpy. ditch the bitch. all the best.

>>93444 Not one of you is blameless nor deserving of sympathy. You can’t force, trick or trap a woman into your fetish, weather it’s fat fetish, foot fetish or scat fetish. You have 2 options: 1) Dump her and find a woman into it (suggest getting in shape and being less ugly). 2) Love her, as she is, which is a neurotic fat phobic woman who doesn’t trust or really like you because of how you treat her

>>93443 One of two things is happening here: 1. She's a difficult person. It's not your job job to fix someone else's mental hang ups. These problems will only get worse with time. 2. You are not establishing and enforcing boundaries effectively. If this is the problem, it's going to follow you into every relationship. Gotta figure it out. Life only gets harder with age. I'd encourage using the relationship as a lab to figure out what is happening, rather than just dipping.

>>93443 I think you need to have a serious talk with her about how her actions are affecting you, bring up the children thing and how you are already feeling afraid of angering her. Tell her that you love her but her insecurities arent just affecting her. My ex wife was the same way and it was a miserable marriage, it only got worse when we had kids.

My girlfriend knows I prefer her bigger but she's not into it. Fortunately for me that historically hasn't mattered much, she's basically doubled her weight in the time we've been together (roughly 150 to 300). More recently she's been on a GLP1 for like 6 months and dropped like 50 pounds, she still looks great but when I look at pictures of her from a year ago it's hard not to be a little disappointed. She's off it now (side effects were just a bit too much) so I might get some rebound weight back but I'm trying to tell myself I can be happy with her at 250 long term.

>>93480 > I’m a victim because I can’t score with fat women because I’m an autistic loser whose failing to force his wife into his fetish. This is you. Who are you even targeting? The man who told them they’re not perfect victims? GTFO with this gender war slop, if you’re wife doesn’t want to be fat get a new wife. Or the sandy vaginas crying they can’t get their wife to care about their sad little dick?

It sounds like some one is telling her she could do a lot better than you and that you're the cause of her weight gain. They likely told her something like, "get on glp-1, lose the weight, ditch that loser, get a new hot boy friend, and be happier and healthier." So like, here's the thing; she's listening. I would leave this chick. It appears to me, she's already planning on leaving you once she has lost weight and has some one else lined up. It's going to be a miserable ride that ultimately ends in heart break.

>>93507 Not gonna happen. This guy scored one girl once and he’s been dead fishing life ever since, that’s why he’s here crying about it.

>>93507 Real. My long term gf stopped dieting and working out completely when she found out I was into big girls. If your girl is serious about you or if she loves you even a little she'll at least accept your kinks if not try to accommodate them because thats what you do when you love someone.

>>93496 the aim of my last post was to insinuate that you are mentally unstable. your reply proves my point.

OP, This sounds terrible. I'm sorry you're going through this. As someone who has gone through this I can assure you, you are not the problem. You're showing your partner you appreciate them outside of being larger. However, your partner is definitely resenting you, growing to hate you, and projecting blame on you rather than themselves. It is time for "the talk." Where you both put everything on the table. Relationships are 50/50. If your partner expects 80/20 meaning she puts out 20% then it may be time to end this relationship. I fear you both are headed towards a very toxic future that will be life changing for the both of you. Right now she is being emotionally abusive and manipulative with her communication towards you. Best of luck.

Guys how the fuck do you man do this to a girl you actually care about. I've been off and on with this girl on the internet for a long time and we've met up a bunch but we took a long break and I'm coming back to her after a year and a bit. She loves gaining and being fat and we got her up to 160kg at one point and it was fucking incredible. But because we weren't really talking and because she never really had a weight 'problem' just loved being fat the weight fell off. Now I'm thinking of getting back with her proper and we obviously want to gain but fam how do you do this shit without worrying about her health? Anyone fatten up a girl to ridiculous proportions without any sort of health problems? Anyone done it to a girl they actually love?

>>93579 Honestly the move is to just keep ur girl under 300lbs and use porn when you need more. Mine weighs like 270 and we switch from going on hikes and gym trips to going home and stuffing her with cake. Just figure out how fat she can be and still have a life

>>93562 > This sounds terrible. I'm sorry you're going through this. As someone who has gone through this I can assure you, you are not the problem. Why are you gassing him up like this? You’re totally part of the problem if you date a woman who doesn’t share your fetish and then try to trick her into it. lol.

>>93443 >being with someone who makes me the scapegoat for all misfortune in their life >has blamed her weight, her job, and other life aspects on me even though I am trying to be supportive >I am scared to even think about her anger God I would pay to hear her side of the story. Garuntee you this guy isn’t the sad sap being taken advantage of. He’s here hat in hand crying and you know she’s probably right that he’s less than useless.