>>78577 Thats good advice. I plan on going all the way with the relationship so I need to not listen to the people hating. Ive already had to spend the few days since I made this thread defending her and comforting her over the whole thing so I think im headed in the right direction.

My gf was slightly over 2x my weight and 2" taller when we started dating and the gap has lessened since I've put on close to 30 lbs. I don't know what the reaction at home is going to be when I bring her home one day. Not like they'd tell me to end things with her or something but I hope no one makes any snarky comments. Half my family being doctors doesn't help.

Looking at it from the other direction, I've always wondered what my sons think of having a 350+ lb mom and if any of their friends have commented on her being so fat.

>>79498 At least one of your sons friends has a secret crush on your wife and she may even be their awakening

>>79504 Doubt that (given their choices to date), but they certainly would be genetically predisposed to loving fat women.

I feel your struggle.I was always too scared to ask a fat girl out, because as a shy and introvert person, the last thing I wanted to do was stand out from the crowd and being out of the norm. That's also why I stayed single for a long time. When I finally met and got together with my first girlfriend, my family and friends were of course anxious to see her. I immediately got those comments from my mom that she was big, and that I could do "better". She kept on making comments from time to time and remained negative about her. I think also one of my friends made some comments. Now, she had BPD and my family and friends were right that she was not good for me, but at some point it is difficult to differentiate between them being negative about her because of her appearance or because of her character. When I finally divorced her, their was a sigh a relief from my mom (and me!), but soon after she commented that she was glad that we divorced and that she knows that I don't mind if a woman is a bit bigger, but that she hoped that my next girlfriend would not be so big (she was about 5"5' and 300 lbs / 1.68m & 135 kg at her peak). That's when I told my mom very firmly that she could be glad for the divorce because she was an evil person, and that she can comment (within reason) if she really thinks someone is not right for me, but that what my girlfriend looks like is my choice, that I prefer that they are a bit bigger and that I don't want her to comment on that ever. My next gf was less big, but still BBW, but also had some mental issues (mainly depression). I could tell that my mom was not always happy with my choice, but she never made any comment. My current wife was quite big as well, but well educated, respectful job and mentally stable and my family really embraced her without comments. With regards to my friends: I have one really alpha male friend who is very vocal about his taste of women, and I think he may have made some comments in the beginning about my first gf, and she could feel how he didn't like her, but then again I can't really blame them for not liking her, I was just too binded myself. But shortly after me, another friend in our group showed up with a big gf and by now this alpha male has just accepted that his to closest friends just like a totally different type of women than he does. Long story short: tell your family and friends that they need to back off. They should judge her by who she is, not what she looks like. Tell them you like what you like, and that is some softness to cuddle. If they love you, they should be happy that you are happy, even if it is not their ideal.

>>79504 Seriously. When I was a kid, I absolutely remember the classmate with the fat mom. At Cub Scout events she’d chaperone, I used to keep tabs on where she was and would choose where stood in the group so I had a view of her lumbering around. I also remember all the parents discussing a potluck after the pinewood derby or some shit, and going a little crazy inside because there was a part where she was telling the others what food she was planning on bringing. I think I finally even asked the kid if they had a bigger toilet at home, which he didn’t seem to mind answering (no).

>>78303 My family and friends know I’m into fat girls, and they think there’s something mentally wrong with me and that I need help. They tell me I could be a supermodel, and they don’t understand why I would go for fat girls when I could get a skinny model.

>>79605 >honest in a normal way >dates various women until finds someone physically and socially ideal >happy This is the way

I'm almost 40 and my family still thinks my fat girl fetish is just a phase. Got married last year to a huge blob. They still couldn't get over it. Even at he weeding. So when they're old and alone and have no one and need help and I live a thousand miles away and they're wondering why they have been "abandoned", I'll tell them it's just a phase and they'll get over it eventually and start frolicking around fields again real soon. Real soon.

My family has never said anything. That said, I wonder what their reaction would have been bringing home someone truly huge - 500+ lbs - or someone who needed a mobility device due to their size.

My mom and dad were Fatphobe (my dad died in 2020, and my mom and I are no contact due to her insane behavior). My girlfriend met my mom but she was thinner back then. My friends love my girlfriend and don’t care about her weight. I dated a lot of horrible people before I met my girlfriend, who treated me awful, so they only care that I’m treated well. One of my best friends tells me how he thinks she’s the best thing to ever happen to me (he’s had my back during some real dark times, and always supported me). She’s gotten pretty fat, but all anyone cares about is how she treats me (very well, she’s the sweetest person, who just happens to be a greedy goth girl).

My wife isn’t super big but I’m skinny, there’s a 100 pound difference or so between us. Lot of body contrast. My family loves her and doesn’t say a word, but her mom(who’s even bigger) always talks shit about fat people she saw at work or if someone random gained weight, it’s like an obsession. My lifelong friends have always known my preference and just joked “It’s always the skinny guys, eh?”

I just don't really like the idea of people knowing you are a chubby chaser and it becoming part of your identity because it carries over into personal life like for example if a fat waitress serves your table there's just going to be implicit thoughts and jokes etc because everyone assumes you want to fuck her for being fat. I really hate that. I'm happy enough dating skinny to mildly chubby women even if my fetish isn't perfectly satisfied because there are more important things in a relationship. I don't think the perfect woman will ever come round, unlikely a 300lb woman will also share the same interests and way of seeing life as me, so I'm yet to really face this dilemma. Casual sex is a different story, bigger the better lolz

>>86618 Pussy faggot. You do not deserve the perfect woman. Cowards don't get their perfect woman. They spend their life in touch less isolation, timidly living their pathetic life the way other people think it should be lived. Never gaining anything but a false sense of security. You think you'll gain acceptance living life like this. But the only thing you've actually purchased for yourself is a false sense of security... A temporary state peace that is only maintained if you diminish your own inner flame. Not worth it. Never worth it. Only literal faggots think hiding their true self is worth it past their high school years. I mean for fuck sake, you little bitch, you're willing to deprive yourself of a fulfilling sex life so you can avoid the very minor and brief discomfort of people assuming you might be attracted to her fat waitress? Yeah, of fucking course the perfect woman is not going to come. She gonna be too busy coming to a real man.

>>86639 > you're willing to deprive yourself of a fulfilling sex life so you can avoid the very minor and brief discomfort of people assuming you might be attracted to her fat waitress? You clearly don’t get it. The waitress was just an example. These sort of jokes would be constant from the people who are comfortable with you and weird awkward silence with your mom when the topic of velveeta comes up. Probably you have no real life experience or real friends but whats being described is just the tip of the iceberg

>>86641 If you can't handle some basic ass ribbing and joking, you're the one with no life experience. Your friends and family are gonna make jokes regardless of who you date

>>86641 >>86641 Oh, I get it completely, you sad pathetic little bitch baby. I live with it every single day of my life with my 550lb girlfriend who I take with me in public everywhere. My mom doesn't like it either. Guess what? She doesn't get to be a part of my life anymore. I moved 3,000 miles away from her, and if she wants to stop being a fucking hateful bitch, my doors are always open for her. But until then she don't get the time of day from me. Nor do the "People who were comfortable with me" who thought they could make fun of my life partner like she was a joke. Boy you gotta be pants on head retarded if you think you have more life experience than me with the way you're talking like a freshman in highschool. To quote Roy Batty: "I've seen things you people wouldn't believe".

>>86661 lol what are the things you wouldn’t believe? That state of the toilet after your 550 pounder has too much milk? I actually get where the other aus guy is coming from. Some of us don’t want to become estranged from family. Fatties tend to be boring moaning mentally ill partners outside the bedroom so they’re better for one night stands. Rather be with a skinny or bbw who’s cool to hang with and can share my hobbies than a blob who’s obsessed with pop vinyls or binge watching some retarded cartoon. YMMV

>>86668 Blob or socially acceptable and active bbw... the OP is too scared to date either.

>>86639 Lol, my fetish desires not being satisfied isn’t the same as my sexual desires, I have been in sexually satisfying relationships with skinny women. Worse comes to worst pay a fat escort to eat donuts for you lol. Why would I trade a good relationship for pure sexual gratification with all the other problems that come from dating a fat woman. Hollow. Maybe I’m not ‘dedicated to the game’ but structuring your life around your sexual desires like becoming a committed feeder or whatever is low vibrational

The intelligent thing to do is find a girl whose company you enjoy, ideally slightly overweight but not necessarily even near BBW, and inflate her once you're comfortable together like every normie with a fat wife inadvertently does. This may be more challenging in the Ozempic age, but it's the only reliable way to mitigate against calamity.

>>86661 >NOOOOO YOU CANT MAKE FUN OF MY 550LB GIRLFRIEND I LOVE STOMPING HER SHIT DOWN THE DRAIN I LOVE LIVING 3000 MILES AWAY ITS COMPLETELY WORTH IT

>>86716 Definitely spoken like someone who has never fucked a fat girl. Why are you even here.

Im in my early 20s and have a huge 400 lb gf who I've been with for 3 years now but never introduced her to my family. I'm athletic and thin so her family loves me but I had nightmares about my mom knowing how she really looks like and all shes seen is pictures face up of us both. Recently she found her profile on facebook and made comments to me about how big she is and how she needs to lose weight to be healthy but that as long as she treats me right shes happy for me. I knew this would happen and I made up some lie about how shes trying to lose weight and has lost 20lbs since we first met to make my mom happy but I dread the day they meet face to face.

>>86739 Congrats man. You will get over the mom thing eventually. That's natural. But you're doing God's work by dating through it. Your future self will thank you. The older you get the less moms feelings will feel important to you. And I'm glad to hear your girlfriend's family is chill. Thats also rare. So for someone with fat phobic parents, this is very nice to have in a relationship. Your girlfriend's parents could get as easily write you off as being mentally unwell for wanting to be in a relationship with their daughter. That's happened to be quite a few times.

>>86739 And for what it's worth, the "she's trying to lose weight" line pretty much never stops working with moms like these. Just keep saying that. Your mom hasn't earned the truth.

>>86738 Fucking fat women and living with them are two different things m8

>>86782 Yeah, and waffle stomping is included in exactly 0 of those situations. I bet you also roll her in flower to find the wet spot, eh big boy?

>>86748 Today was her graduation and my family asked to see pictures of us and I share one full body and all I could see was my mom zoom into her face and look at her double chin. She immediately talked about how im going to help her lose weight and already i was getting annoyed and wanted to leave. I dont know how much more of this I can deal with and still do not look forward to the day she meets her in person.

>>86926 Might have to distance yourself from your mom bro

>>86797 > Yeah, and waffle stomping is included in exactly 0 of those situations No but if your going to bring your 500 pound wife to social events it’s good to plan for the bathroom before and after because a lot of people’s apartments aren’t going to have a handicap able stall, being smart enough to use the shower is a pretty good life hack in these sort of hard to reach areas. Totally agree these guys are making a mountain out of a molehill, fat women are just people and anyone who has a problem with who you date should get cut out of your life.

>>86948 No, the shower is never a pretty good life hack. You got a take all your clothes off and put then back on. And then completely dry off after getting wet which is a nightmare for these blob women. Bidet, plus travel bidet. There you go. Now you know how to actually live with a super fat women instead of just parroting memes that never fucking happened

I've always been outspoken about my preferences, which is the only way to be. Women in my life knew to steer their fat friends my way (I'm 6'1, athletic but not ripped, decent looking and fun, which helps). There's no reason to be ashamed of liking big girls. Being closeted is a faggot move. That being said, my bleeding-heart, tolerant, respectful, loving, east coast parents did NOT approve of my short, 450lb 10/10 smokeshow ssbbw girlfriend. It's caused both myself and my girl a ton of heartache. My siblings can bring literal crackheads home and they get more acceptance then my intelligent, creative, compassionate girl ever has. I had talked my parents up forever to her about how great they were, but they irreversibly burned the bridge with the most important person in my life and thus with me. I've had to forcefully tell them to shut the fuck up, smile, and never make her feel an ounce of discomfort again or they're dead to me. If they want to be involved in the wedding, kids, future, they need to learn to play nice. Never compromise the woman you care about for venomous family members. Big girls have it tough enough without the men that are supposedly attracted to them turning out to be pussies.

>>86951 > No, the shower is never a pretty good life hack. Are you one of those sick SOBs making their girls shit themselves? Travel bidet doesn’t solve trying to fit a 400 pound ass in a NYC apartment potty while the walk in shower is right there.

>>86957 Nope . My girls got a prerry clean butt. Travel bidets are game changers. NYC. Well there you go. NYC apartments and super fats do not mix. In fact, NYC in general is pretty unaccommodating for super obese people. It's a novice move trying to live with one in that city

>>78303 That is wild to me. I'm forever alone, but my sister's dating someone who's pretty freaking massive and neither of our parents have said a thing about it as far as I'm aware. >>86618 The worst thing about this story is the part where you actually go to a restaurant and pay their ridiculous prices. You probably tip too, you sick fuck. >>86639 Normal people date obese individuals too y'know. It's not exclusive to fetishists. You can just be with someone who's fat as fuck without telling your parents you want to feed them until they're about to explode.

>>86970 > My girls got a prerry clean butt. Travel bidets are game changers. I tried to buy my girl a bidet and she called me gay. We live in a freedom loving state that isn’t all about this trans shit so I get it. But I’m not a fartfag or into any of this poop shit and she 100% can’t reach.

>>86956 Why didn't you ask her out after moving out?

>>87007 I can tell what kind of person you are based on this weird autistic view of restaurants

>>78303 Feel like I hit the lottery on this kinda thing all the time. My parents found out I was into huge women in high school by accident (walked in on me and my phone screen was still on, rookie mistake). They've never really said much outside of some jeering from my dad, but he was also a pretty big guy and his family had some big people in it. Went out with a couple chubby girls, they were honestly more surprised with the one skinny girl I was with for a bit. Current girl is 400 lbs, I brought her home to visit for the holidays last year and everyone absolutely loved her. Helps that she's conventionally attractive (I've gotten comments from people that I know are not into fat girls that she has a pretty face or she's cute in general) and pretty damn smart. Probably helps that she works a standing retail job so she's fine with walking all day, hell we've gone on light hikes before. Definitely has a lot of family issues that lead to her current size but pretty tame compared to stories I've seen here. To be honest I'm more curious how they'll about me getting bigger. I opened up to my girl and told her that I wanted to be about her size, and while she's not specifically into it she's more than happy to encourage me. I get pretty frequent "you need to get bigger already" comments referring to things like clothes she can steal, or so I stop walking too fast for her (I forget sometimes). We've both been very overt with each other that we'll be engaged as soon as Ive got the spare money for a ring, so it's a "big" future for me I suppose. Never give up lads, I bumped into this girl by accident and ended up in the perfect relationship

>>87012 I haven't lived with them since I was 18. I live several states away but we still see them for family shit.

>>87069 Yeah, factually correct. That's the type. Restaurants use tipping to justify underpaying their staff in spite of overcharging on food. idk maybe they don't have issues with tipping culture in New Zealand since the managers just get Kangaroos to wait tables intead.

>>86956 Best advice on this thread. This is how it should be! Your girl is lucky to have you!

Thank you for your texts, guys. It's really inspiring seeing people assuming their way, and it helps me trusting my way of being. As said before, the only way is to assume, even if it means being "against" the other opinions. You guys are lucky to be in the US, where I live in France, there are very few big girls, and it's part of the culture in a way to be against fat people... I was shy about my taste in women, when I was younger (25 now). My parents met my ex-girlfriend by accident (they were aware that I like very big girls, because my dad found my history when I was 13, this was a big trauma, I was terribly ashamed during many years). But they met her and acted normally and they said nothing to me after this. I guess they understood my taste and that it cannot be changed. Another episode, I was very close to a girl and we had a group of friends (not close friends, be people we knew and who where friendly). In the evening one of these friend came to me and said "look I don't know what you're doing with that girl but you shouldn't be with her, there are much better girls, why are you with her, she's fat" and so on. I was more disappointed than pissed, at that moment I understood my taste will "cost" me some relations. I decided to stand firm and told the guy it's my choice, I don't have to justify anything and that he should mind his business instead of being impolite. Of course the guy and I had less contact after that, but I was shocked as I considered him z friend before. The truth his, your close circle will make the most comments and annoying questions. The people in the street don't care. Or maybe in a thin people country like mine, they'll raise eyebrows and laugh discreetly but that's all. I got jokes from my real friend, but he totally understand. You just have to put a respect boundary and not letting anyone crossing it. In the end, just be a man and assume. As said previously, it's hard enough for the girls, and they definitely don't want to be with a guy who doesn't assume.

>>87160 I'm just glad I have a chance to post this again.

>>87160 I have never ever understood why friends have a problem with the appearance of their friends partner. I'm not banging them so why should I care. My best friend is constantly dating girls under his league I'd say but it's none of my business. If anything its just better because there's one less girl in the dating pool who I'm not interested in.

>>87160 >You just have to put a respect boundary and not letting anyone crossing it. In the end, just be a man and assume. As said previously, it's hard enough for the girls, and they definitely don't want to be with a guy who doesn't assume. This

>>87165 That doesn't mean much. The threshold for being overweight is so low. A 5'6" 155lbs / 1m68 70 kg woman is already considered overweight. That's just normal weight, not even chubby. I would like to see the statistics of how many have a 35 or 40+ BMI. Then we are talking BBW.

France is going to pay for GLP-1 products for anyone who has a BMI above 35. It's literally over if you like BBWs unless you dumpster dive and date retards who will let you control their lives and habits Fuck these products honestly