/gen/ - General Discussion

Compliment how she she looks on her clothes. "You look hot" " I am a lucky man" Flirt with her a lot. Be specific about what you like about her body. I'd target the larger areas like her belly, thighs, or arms. Pay a lot of attention to those areas during sex.

This is your primary function as an FA. And apparently this is your first mission, soldier. If you can't convince her that your fat girl is sexy as fuck, then you have no business dating a fat girl. Could be she's turbo fucked by fat phobia and there's nothing you can do. But, most likely, you probably just haven't successfully normalized it for her yet. It can be done. Normies can be turned into feedees if you play your cards right and your girl has any capacity whatsoever to be convinced

>>86064 I do this a lot. I could probably be more specific, maybe. I do tell her that her stomach is cute and make sure to appreciate her thighs. At this point I'm pretty sure she knows I like bigger girls. >>86069 It is indeed my first longer relationship with a fat girl. The thing is, I don't even need her to become a feedee, just relax a bit and feel sexy. Should I just be more blunt about it?

>>86078 No. Don't be more blunt. It's not a matter of telling her you think she's sexy. You have to make her feel sexy. It's a big difference.

Introduce weed. Show her how it intensifies sex. She's already chasing dopamine. It won't matter if she's into the fat.

>>86080 I'll keep at it. I'm in the process of buying her new clothes and lingerie. >>86084 Unfortunately we both despise weed. She's more of a beer and wine girl.

>>86080 are you a woman?

>>86080 This. My girl is probably almost 300lbs and hated her body when we met but she says she feels hotter than ever because of the way I look at her and touch her. She just wants to feel loved and doesnt care what body she has as long as she gets that feeling.

>>86089 No he's a guy who's had consensual sex with a woman, more than once.

The key point you absolutely must understand, is that you enjoying her body doesn't necessarily translate into her enjoying her body. It's a puzzle you gotta figure out. Every girl is at different stages of self acceptance and self loathing. And I can tell you from a lifetime of experience, there are exactly 0 fat women on this planet who let you sleep with your face wedged into in their fat sweaty butt all night just right out the gate. But, if you ease her into it over 8 months or a year, slowly (NOT ON THE FIRST OR SECOND DATE YOU FUCKING HORNY AUTISTIC BASTARD'S), then 1 times out of 4 she will eventually learn to get off to it, and 3 times out of 4 she will indulge you and actually come to kind of like it....like it in a way where the may not actually like it like it, but if you are ever apart for any length of time she will realize she misses it and can't sleep without it anymore. There's a small percentage who won't ever learn to enjoy it no matter how suave you are, but you should have broken with them on the third or forth date anyway, to be honest If you come in too hot, too blunt, you're gonna make her skin crawl. Do not be the FA that is so autisticaly enthusiastic about fat that you cause your girl to walk away from the relationship permanently unwilling to ever date an FA again convinced they're all creepy weirdos. Be the one that brings another fat girl into the world where they accept themselves as sexual creatures. And yes. I get it. It's frustrating and isolating and annoying and alienating to have to do this... and it took me years... YEARS to understand this. But for almost every fat girl there lies hidden the correct combination of words, facial expressions, and tones of voice that can absolutely rewrite a girl's brain into being a full blown feedee. It's a skill that takes a lifetime to develop. Step 1 is stepping out of the closet and actually dating fat girls. Congratulations. You've done this. Most guys never even get to this point. Step 2 is probably messing up for a little while as you get your sea legs and learn the ropes. But once you clear that skills gap, you're pretty much golden. The two greatest skills an FA can have are this: 1: how to work the fat to penetrate deeper 2: how to make her love her fat

>>86085 Edibles my good man. Once you see what a gummy does to her appetite, you will love weed. It's the corner stone of all the great gains. Offer it to intensify her orgasms. When the munchies kick in, man the kitchen.

>>86103 I'm the guy that wrote this message. But I've driven across town since sending it so my post ID has probably changed. I am here to add that the guys telling you about munchies.... are not wrong.

>>86103 You are absolutely right. My wife had 30+ years of me telling her how gorgeous she was and that I loved her being fat, and still that was not enough to undo the judgment of society and the shit her family put her through as a kid. I thought she was ok with her size - frankly, I would never have gotten together with her if I had known how she felt - but I think the GLPs fucked with her brain and it all came spilling out when I asked her to jump naked on this little trampoline we have (that I got her for exercise). Talk about a meltdown! As for the OP's question, I'm not sure there is a lot you can do to change her mind, at least based on my experience. Maybe suggest - in a nice way of course - that she see a counsellor about how she feels about her body. Not to get to her to accept getting fatter, but at least not be so screwed up about how she is and how much better she thinks things will be if only she were thin. Regardless of how we may feel about her being fat - or how you would like her to feel - that sort of hatred of your own body is unhealthy.

>>86056 I think that if you genuinely love her, and not just her body, you ought to let her express her grievances with how she looks. Even if she's beautiful in your eyes, if she sees herself as horrendous there's not really that much that you can do to convince her otherwise, and may even deduce that your compliments are disingenuous and performative. Breaking to her that you're into seeing her larger is also an awful idea, she might think you're deliberately trying to make her feel miserable. IMO, you should have an heart to heart conversation and listen to what she thinks of how she looks/how other people talk about her/how she feels physically and mentally etc. and respond to her with factual (not lovey-dovey) answers. Only after that you may try and ask her to give fat sex a go, maybe she'll like it more than she believes, maybe she absolutely cannot get in the mood or even feel exhausted by it, but you won't know unless you start seeing things from her own POV.

>>86056 You definitely don't tell her shit. You don't have the kind of relationship where that's going to land. Plus, I guarantee you've already slipped up with some kind of misplaced compliment or awkward physical touch. She likely knows and is fighting a two front war against her own self-loathing and denying that her bf is likely a fat admirer. "Trust she accepts it" is retarded and will never happen. You're in an emerging dead bedroom situation. You either reprogram her - which frankly I don't think you have the skills for now - help her lose weight and deal, which at least throws her off the FA suspicions and you live to fight another day, or she gets even fatter and you hornier and more sex starved until you lose your fucking mind.

>>86333 I can see it now: OP desperately trying to leverage what little skills he has at reprogramming his girlfriend. And by some miracle, he gets her to start opening up .....aaaaaaaannd then she watches the new Stefan documentary when it comes out. And it's back to dead bedroom. This story will be being played out countless times all over the country in the coming months.

>>86352 Could go either way. My gf found out about feeder stuff and said it was gross so I just told her im into chubby girls and not any of that weird stuff. Now she keeps getting fatter on her own and our relationship is still good.

>>86364 >I just told her im into chubby girls and not any of that weird stuff. Keep this in mind, OP.

>>86352 >...aaaaaaaannd then she watches the new Stefan documentary when it comes out. Can someone humor me on this ?

>>86056 Lipid self-hate algorithm