/gen/ - General Discussion

Yeah, a few years ago I was in my late 20s and spent the summer hooking up with a chubby 50 year old who lived in my neighborhood. She was fun and bubbly and a great fuck, but I could tell her life was a bit dull and she didn’t really have many prospects. Never married no kids etc, seemed like she was resigned to romance not panning out for her. Basically I approached her like I’d approach a woman my own age (this was on a dating app, mind you), she eventually asked if I minded that she was older and I said hell no and was hitting it from behind on her couch the next evening. Basically what I’m saying is you might as well try, older women know what they want and if you’re lucky you might get some great pussy out of it.

>>88355 Do you remember what app you were using? I don't seem to match with any on the one I'm currently on.

>>88359 Tinder, lol. Was always the best option for me when I wanted to cast a wide net and meet a large variety of women.

>>88430 >Tinder Unfortunate for me. Any time I've used Tinder, the algorithm seems adamant on not showing me plus sized women.

>>88447 Honestly the notion of “the algorithm” is a little overblown. You are unlikely to find, say, a bunch of 500+ pound women on there by virtue of there not being that many to begin with, but if you’re patience and persistent you will eventually come across bigger girls. Don’t force it, just swipe passively on your lunch break for a couple weeks or some shit.

>>88430 At risk of getting bombarded by the shitty advice you'd expect from a place like this, any tips for curating your own profile to better attract hook ups or whatever? I feel like mine is too "bubbly" I guess, I've had some great dates I've enjoyed but never a hookup

>>88636 Keep doing what you’re doing and be yourself. Might sound corny but it’s true.

>>88636 has nothing to do with your profile has to do with how you act on the dates and where they are. i don't really recommend first meet hookups with women from the internet but you should be getting drinks, talking less than her, matter of fact and open about your feelings, aware of if kissing her is a good idea and trying to do so if it is, taking her home without assumption, etc.

>>88348 OP here with an update. Met a 50 year old bbw online recently. Gonna meet her for coffee next week. She has expressed how horny she is so maybe I'll get lucky and we'll just go back to her place right after and smash.

i feel like trying to get a mature bbw to gain would be easier.

>>88893 What makes you say that?

>>88901 Older people normally have a slower metabolism, so in theory they gain weight more easily and is more harder to lose it

>>88987 I feel like this is largely exaggerated and most of the time older people gain weight because they live a sedentary lifestyle and their partners keep ordering/cooking food.

>>88887 >>88348 Another update: met her for coffee. Everything went OK. We talked for an hour and didn't seem awkward. She was fat in a way that made her look pear shaped, so pretty attractive imo. However it felt kinda platonic despite sex being brought, but that's probably my fault since I dont really go on dates and can't flirt.

>>88893 I think the opposite. Most people considered "mature" are old enough to have had at least one health scare, and as such they're probably unlikely to intentionallh gain a few hundred pounds. Younger people are way more likely to roll the dice on that shit. Way easier to bounce back from it too.

>>89253 As someone who lives in an area with more older than younger people, most don't make any drastic health changes for the better, even if something has already happened. An older person who was already chubby is more likely to just get chubbier as they age

OP here with an update for anyone that may care. I met a BBW online and for almost the past month or so I have been meeting at her place for sex and cuddling a couple times a week. Unfortunately, I think I fucked up in setting boundaries. She is kind of clingy and despite saying multiple times I'm only interested in a casual/short-term relationship she is regularly hinting/pushing for more. How bad did I fuck up?

>>90078 Yeah I gotta find a way to break this off. The sex isn't worth it.

>>90078 >>90207 Yeah break it off. As soon as they catch feelings it goes from casual fucking to confusing emotional roller coaster, and the fact she can't have you will make it that much more intense. Let her off before it becomes a nuisance

>>90246 I broke it off over the weekend. She admitted that she was getting emotionally attached and knew she should probably end it soon. I do feel bad as she was going through a rough spot in her life and me breaking it off likely made things worse.

>>90251 Well done anon, you have more balls than me. I was fucking an older chubby daddy bear (55) (I'm bisexual) who wanted me to introduce me to my Mum and Dad. I sent him an email saying I was just using him for sex and I didn't feel anything for him. I did, but I wasn't out to anyone in my life and the idea of people knowing I'm into fat older blokes was mortifying.

introduce him*

>>90251 On the flip side, it sounds like she was at least understanding about it, on top of the idea of it not being sustainable in the longer-term being a mutual one in the end. It could have gone a lot worse for you. Then again, I can't say it's too surprising, Gen X women seem to be more chill than Millennial/Zoomer women, from personal experience. Speaking of personal experience, and apologies for slightly hijacking the thread, I actually met up with a mature BBW very recently. Though I use the term "BBW" liberally here, her figure is pretty similar to OP's pic, but with more ink. We also met online and went to get food together. It ended up being pretty platonic as well, especially given that we started talking on a fetish site. She seems like a genuinely pleasant person, and we both expressed interest in meeting up again. Going back to the original point of this thread, though, having a casual relationship with a mature BBW isn't really that different from having one with a younger BBW. The only noticeable differences I can think of offhandedly are A. Older women obviously are a bit more limited in mobility on average, and B. They are more likely to desire voice conversations, whether in-person or on the phone. Women in their late 30s-mid 40s in particular also commonly swear up and down that they're in their sexual prime, but I can't necessarily confirm that.