/gen/ - General Discussion

I think we need feeder school for developing ever increasingly effective Feeders. Standard operating procedures, best practices, cutting edge experiments, etc. This helps get them up to speed quicker and they can start getting more women started and get them to max size easier. I don't have the resources, but I figured I'd throw the idea out there for an enterprising gentleman.

From https://www.tumgik.com/thecrownestt : The crazed feeder/feedee urge that this has to happen. Yes, we can keep it together and rational and human MOST of the time. Until the cracks show. Until the antsy feelings show up. Until we let the our worst, true personalities drive for a little bit. Get it out of the system. Feeders who HAVE to fatten her up. No regard for her pleading or begging for a break. The fascination of watching someone abuse food is too great. Feedees who MUST disassociate for a day. Check out entirely. Eating as continuously as possible. The thrill of security that comes with having an abundance to consume. Plan a day for it. Once a week. The feeder gets to think and sabotage. Portions, flavors, textures that are prepared around the clock. Searching for the balance that keeps someone eating every hour. Mentally noting the calorie goals being reached. Reaching that pinnacle of excitement in the later hours. Every bite from here will grow them. That thrill will twist a feeder. Find the right words, threats, actions to motivate another 1,000 calories by midnight. The feedee gets to let go. Completely. Burping. Groaning. Food-brained. Thoughtless. Slip into an identity of excess. A fat slob. A pig. Obliterating any grasp on the world. You're cared for in this moment. You're shameless. You need this you need this you need to be controlled, fattened. You have the easiest purpose. Grow fatter and lay still. Carving such a day like this into your weekly routine will have consequences. The feeder will have to fight those dominant urges on random days. The feedee will find themselves drifting towards that catatonic state of eating near the end of bigger meals. Now the feeder will be trained, slowly but surely, to understanding how to feed someone who has lost all abilities to restrain. The feedee will be unable to avoid putting on weight during this weekly release. Weight milestones aren't an unknown, you're doing exactly what is needed to blow up to those numbers.

Figured I'd share some progress... My feedee has been doing such a good job for me lately. We are coming up on a year together and we met last September when she was a (very) cute 230lbs, 5'7". She really ballooned this Spring and she worked very hard this Summer pushing past 350. It's been nothing short of a pleasure supporting my growing girl and teaching her how to embrace this new life for ourselves, sexually and otherwise. To tell the truth it's new for both of us. Her weight is finally reaching the point where it is severely impacting our lives; clothing stores rarely carry her size, distance and mobility for stores and college must be planned out ahead of time, she now uses an inhaler, has breathing trouble when laying down, can't do stairs, etc... all these things are very erotic for the both of us but I think we're a little underprepared for the future. This stage in her gain is particularly difficult now that we've reached the crossroads of "lose weight or apply for disability" with regards to her getting a proper sleep or getting to class, among other things. I'm beginning to see some of the responsibilities more clearly and would like to hear some fellow feeders' takes on these things. How did you navigate the health and mobility transitions with your feedee? Where do people shop for 50+ bmi clothes? Because of how quickly she gained, her mobility is worse than it typically would be for her weight. She thinks she can still get around but I see how hard it is for her and would like to get her in a wheelchair... she doesn't seem ready for that yet, though. She's afraid of what her family would think. Any advice there? Thanks all. We're both so happy to be members of this community!

>>90890 Are you in the U.S.? If yes, Torrid and Lane Bryant should still have clothes big enough for her. My wife is currently 5’9” 450lbs ish and fits in the biggest size for both stores. She used to be bigger and could only shop at Catherine’s (which I think shut down during Covid) or online from Woman Within. So you shouldn’t have trouble finding clothes for her yet (if you’re in the U.S.).

>>90890 120lbs in a year is insane work. As unsexy as it is, get her a sleep study to check if she needs a CPAP machine. And get her swimming - it's a low impact activity that will help build a small amount of muscle and improve cardio. That'll help support any future gains.

>>90890 Old Navy has been very good recently. And a brand called Cider. Target occasionally. There's another very recent one that I'll try and remember to get the name of. She needs to get used to the additional weight, some muscle would do her some good. Perhaps avoid a chair until she's a real heavyweight otherwise she won't have the necessary foundations on which to build super obesity.

>>90895 Yes, we're in the Northeast US. I guess it's hyperbole to say we can't find ANYTHING in stores, but it's few and far between when shopping in public. We usually go to our local Torrid once a month and though shirts and underwear are generally available, jeans and shorts above a 22 are just impossible to find. She has a few pairs of 30s now that are pretty comfortable but are starting to get snug when she sits. I'll definitely check out online options soon though. We both prefer to shop in person, especially because she can be picky when it comes to clothes and how they look, but she'll get used to it. I once suggested Lane Bryant to her- apparently that's "40 year old mom clothes". >>90903 Thank you, we're both very proud! I suggested a sleep study to her and she seems very open to it... but the CPAP might take some getting used to. She absolutely has sleep arena, I've been listening to it for months. Her physical is coming up soon and I'm planning on addressing it then. Speaking of medical things... she was pre-diabetic when we met. I'm guessing she may be officially deemed Type 2 at the next appointment... with all that being said, does she qualify for a medical disability? Does anyone have experience with that? It would be nice if we could start parking in handicap spaces, because there have been a dozen times lately where we don't go to the store at that moment because there aren't any parking spaces close enough. My feedee loves to swim. Amazingly she's a better swimmer than me! But floating comes a lot more naturally to her. I know I need to get her some muscle but I'm always afraid of her losing weight. Any tips on finding a good balance? And advice for swimming in the Winter as broke uni kids? Lol

>>90915 Since the two of you are in university, see if you can get a discount for a local community recreation centre (specifically one that has a public pool) that's nearby. That's what I did when I was attending university and got a 75% discount for this rec centre that was a ten minute walk where I live. And depending on the area you two live in, local resorts have heated outdoor pools or indoor pools, though your mileage may vary on pricing. During the seasons when swimming isn't an option, yoga is another low impact activity she can do, for it can help with her cardio and have her build physical strength, especially when she needs to build up more muscles in order to support the fat she's going to gain. Make sure the routine is light and takes it slowly. For food intake, high calorie food and snacking in-between is essential. Rice and red meat (beef or pork), with the former being a relatively cheap food to bulk up with, are required. One cup of rice provides 200 calories, and is fairly calorie-dense in a single serving. Add butter and Parmesan cheese, scrambled eggs, or even something like crushed/shaved peanuts or cashews can make it into a whole meal. Speaking of which, nuts (almonds, cashews, peanuts, etc.) are great for snacking, and a handful of almonds provides around 170 calories. While lean cuts, like pork tenderloin, can be a nutrient-dense and protein-rich part of a balanced gaining plan, consider choosing fattier cuts, which provide more calories than leaner meats to help you take in extra calories. Homemade protein smoothies/shakes are both highly nutritious and an effective way to gain weight. Look up the ones that provide around 400-600 calories. You can add nut butter to a variety of snacks or dishes, such as smoothies, yogourts, and crackers, to turn them into a high calorie snack in no time. Also look into fruits that are fairly calorie-dense, such as avocados or dehydrated fruits. And if you're worried she is going to lose weight with the physical activity, don't be. Trust in the process, and she'll be right.

>>90903 Cpaps are unsexy? Nonsense!